I ruined my life. I just moved to a small town in Oklahoma. At the beginning of my school year I had tons of friends, boys were all over me, but then they started to see how shy I was. I didn't have any confidence in myself, and I feel like I have no friends, and Im just like so quiet. How can I change my life the way I want it? Please help me?
2007-01-20 10:52:51 · 8 answers · asked by volleyballis4ever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well I don't think Im shy I don't want to say something at the wrong time or say something wierd
2007-01-20 13:06:59 · update #1
First off, you haven't ruined your life. People change and you can change too.
I used to be shy. Then I learned that because I was so quiet people thought I didn't like THEM. So I really tried to talk to people. Just say hello and ask about them. Most people like to talk about themselves and that takes the pressure off of you. Just listen and you may slowly begin to open up and trust them.
Good luck - and don't give up!
2007-01-20 10:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by lurkingonthirtyfourthstreet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad is your parents don't care, but you know them better then I. I am a parent and I was bullied in grade school. so I'm speaking from experience. Me personally I learned to fight and use my words very effectively. Which unfortunately turned me into an angry teenager in highschool, which ironically made me popular because I became the bully not to the unfortunate but to the popular and the popular would pretend to like me but deep down inside I knew they didn't no one did because I became so mean and didn't even realize it until I met my wife and she helped me see how me being bullied changed my persona. So how I think you should handel this. Like I would tell my kids go to the principal which I would do for my kids but since you said you parents don't care you need to do it on your own. Tell the school what is going on if they push you away tell them your going to call the local papers and let them know your story. Now a days being bullied is not allowed and the school it self can get in trouble for not stopping it, but you have to do your part stand your ground and tell your parents even if they don't care tell every teacher that your tied of it tell the kids also. Go as far ad calling Dr Phil the tv talk show and he'll have them come on the show the school and the kids that bully and put them on the spot. Listen I'm here for you and I pray you find an answer, but don't ever give up everyone has a reason for being here on earth and everyone is special in some way even when you don't feel that way when your an adult all that bully crap goes away. Do good in school and when you're an adult you'll probably be there boss and they will pray that you treat them better then they treated you. Good luck P.S I've been there it will get better
2016-05-24 02:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Positive self talk is the first step. ONLY positive talk. Don't let yourself tell you that you are shy. I used to be really shy too, and as I have gotten older I have more and more self confidence. Be patient with yourself. Join some kind of group that you are interested in or good at. Like a book club if you like to read, or take piano if you like music, or anything else you enjoy. Try to be happy. You are a beautiful person. Good luck...
2007-01-20 11:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can overcome your shyness by joining a club or an activity that you would really enjoy. You can try martial arts it's a great confidence builder, I've tried it and it works. I even made a few friends.
2007-01-20 11:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by linzee604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the main cause of unhappiness.
Human life is a combination of matter and spirit soul, and the whole process of Vedic knowledge is directed at liberating the spirit soul from the contamination of matter. Those men who are too materialistic are unaware of this knowledge and are more inclined to economic development for material enjoyment. The human life is not meant for hard labor for economic development, nor is it meant for sex indulgence like that of the dogs and hogs. It is specially meant for making a solution to the problems of material life and the miseries thereof. So the people waste their valuable human life by sleeping and sex indulgence at night, and by laboring hard in the daytime to accumulate wealth, and after doing so, they try to improve the standard of materialistic life. In this way, they waste their whole life, not understanding the purpose of human life, and die just like cats and dogs, completely unaware of the spiritual reality.
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2007-01-20 11:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Emily Meyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had the same problem one day but then i realize that if i have real Friends and boys like me is because of the way i am .
try to be the same way you were in the first place
2007-01-20 11:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by sunday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can join a club or take extracurrigalarture arihfskjf sorry gave up on that... activities, that should help. Clubs, sports, etc...
2007-01-20 10:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join everything you can.
From arts & craft classes, cooking classes, volunteering.
meet all kinds of people
It's tough in a new place, finding your "click".
2007-01-20 11:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋