Well im bi and so is my girlfriend. I told my mom i was bi and she told me i was going through a phase(which i know im not). My girlfriend has not told her mom yet, but im pushing her to tell her mom any time soon. But i want to tell my mom about my girlfriend. I hate lying to her about who im spending my friday nights with. My girlfriend means so much to me, so i really want to tell my mom about her. I want to tell my mom before valentine's day, because i want to spend valentine's day and my birthday(which is Feb.13) with my girlfriend. So how do i tell her..............
2007-01-20 10:37:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You haven't mentioned how old you are. Please be aware that your mother may not be ready to accept her daughter as sexually active, much less having a sexual orientation that she isn't willing to accept.
If you have a friend of family that is of your mother's generation who you and she both trust, it might be better to have them back you up. Have a talk with them, and ask them if they would be willing to be supportive without actively taking sides in a discussion where you attempt to discuss this issue again with your mother.
The fact that your mother called this a 'phase' indicates that she believes it is something you will grow out of. If you don't feel that way, you'll have to be prepared to answer questions and maybe even experience anger on her part. This is probably not the plan she had for you, or even considered in her 'worst case scenario'.
Trying to set a deadline for telling her is probably not the best way to make an impression. If it means that much you, go ahead -- but I think forcing the situation would probably do more harm than good.
2007-01-20 10:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be best to wait to tell her until after Valentine's Day so that she can't ruin those two days for you. Afterward either you can be honest with her and hope for the best reaction or take her to support groups, etc and help her to be accepting.
2007-01-21 02:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do you want to , i understand you dont like lying but lets be honest she probably can see you two are more then friends and what happens when you tell her and doesnt let you see your gf again
2007-01-20 18:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk in and say: Mom i'm pregnant with a 56 year old man's baby and he gave me herpes..when she starts yelling say i was joking and then say i'm only gay then she won't think it's that bad
2007-01-20 18:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you dying to tell her?
maybe wait for a while...let the time pass...
2007-01-20 18:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jellyfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"mom, i have a girlfriend named......"
DUUUUHHHH!!!!
2007-01-20 18:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by rooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋