Oh, CRAP! Am I prego?

Question

Hi, all my period is EXTREMLY late. I DID have sex about last month....My sister is saying that I am moody..But how can I find out? I can't go out tonight or tomorrow to get some tests how could I get tests w/ out my parents knowing? I am 13.....HELP! :(

My last period was 12/18/06 And I need to BUY the tests I don't even have them yett.

we used protection but he said it might have broke....

he is 16.......................

Answer 1

Talk to your parents, they will be able to tell you all about this and no matter what happens you will have to tell them anyway, even if you are not pregnant YOU NEED HELP!

You know we are going to say it – if you cannot be responsible then you should not be having sex; it is not just your health and life at state but also that of your partners and potentially your children.

There are laws for a reason, underage sex is harmful not just because at your age you cannot be trusted to make reasonable decisions but also because physically your body is unlikely to be ready for sex, underage sex increases your risk of STD's and cervical cancer, if you are to fall pregnant (which lets face it if you are having sex at 13 you are unaware of your body, sex and safe sex) then it is a serious risk to the health and life or you and your child.

Sex is something that should be between two consenting, mature, responsible and educated adults, a boy who cares about you would not have sex with you when you are only 13 years old and if you cared about yourself you would not put yourself at risk like this either, you have no respect for yourself and you are ignorant about sex.

If you are having sex then you need to talk to an adult to get counselling to find out what is making you want to do this to yourself, or if someone is pressuring you then they need to be punished - whoever had sex with you needs a serious talking to as well, what they are doing is classed as statutory rape so they can get into legal trouble not to mention if they are having sex with you they are either just as ignorant as you about sex and anatomy or simply don't care about you.

You will need an exam to make sure you are okay as sex at your age is very bad for your sexual health, if the condom broke pregnancy is not the only risk, you will have to go for STD checks as well as pregnancy tests.

A woman is only fertile for around 30% of her cycle, do you know if you were fertile at the time, do you know if he ejaculated or not, do you know if the condom did actually break or not?

The chances are you are not pregnant, this time, which would make you very lucky and very stupid if you carry on having sex before the age of at least 16 years old and before learning about your body and sex. With that said it is still a possibility, with sex there is always a possibility of pregnancy occurring.

As you are only 13 years old your body is still maturing physically and sexually and as such your menstrual cycles are unlikely to be regular as the hormones in your body will still be in a state of fluctuation – until you are an adult your menstrual cycle will be irregular, think of your body like a big factory, it takes some time for all the machines to start working together, your reproductive system is very complex so it can take many years to get into a normal pattern (as such this also means it is difficult for you to determine when you are fertile).

You might want to think about inducing menstruation, as long as you have had at least two weeks since your last period this will be safe to do, just remember not to do this all the time because it can mess your menstrual cycle up.
Parsley tea is the best way of inducing menstruation and it will not induce miscarriage on it's own so it is a safe emmenagogue for you to use right now – this will make your period come, provided you are not pregnant, so to stop you from worrying so much about it being late.

You can use pasley to induce your period in two ways; either inserting 2-4 sprigs of fresh clean parsley into your vagina changing every twelve hours, or the much preferred method of making tea from the parsley – fresh is best, but you may want to try using parsley tea bags – you want to drink about 4 cups in a day but you may want to drink more. A note on safety, do not use if you have kidney problems, you may also want to try increasing your vitamin C intake around the same time as this is an abortifacient so starves the uterus of progesterone that helps the lining of the uterus break down.

If you believe you are pregnant then see a doctor to take a pregnancy test and think about your options – abortion or keeping the baby- be aware that because of your age if you keep the baby you are putting yourself and the child at very great risk, you'll also have a child when you are a child yourself, as will your partner (if he doesn't care enough about you now, do you think he'll stand by you if you are pregnant?).

More information;

http://www.teenpregnancy.org
http://www.positive.org
http://www.scarleteen.com
http://www.sexetc.org
http://www.teenwire.com
http://www.teenvoices.com
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org
http://www.plannedparenthood.org
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org
http://www.brook.org.uk
http://www.puberty101.com

Answer 2

First of all ur 13!!! Ur still a lil girl! Wow..... already. How long have u been getting ur period? If ur new to it..... ur period is irregular and u can skip ur period for up to 6 months, but with sex involved,,,,,, i dont know. U need to talk to ur parents or sister and have her help u get a test, GOOD LUCK!

Excerpt Runaway Love:
Little Ericka is 11 years old
She's steady tryna figure why the world is so cold
So she pops X to get rid of all the pain
Plus she's having sex with a boy who's sixteen
Emotions run deep and she thinks she's in love
So there's no protection he's using no glove
Never thinkin' bout the conceqences of her actions
Livin' for today and not tomorrow's satisfaction
The days go by and her belly gets big
The father bails out he ain't ready for a kid
Knowin' her mama would blow it all out of proportion
Plus she lives poor so no money for abortion
Ericka's stuck up in the world on her own
Forced to think that Hell is a place called home
Nothin' else to do but get her clothes and pack
She says she's bout to run away and never come back

Answer 3

If that’s the case your only a few days late. Have you ever been late before? If you haven’t that could be a sign but don’t panic it could just be a “hiccup” in your cycle. Hopefully if your not pregnant you will cease doing it till you’re a bit older 16 or 17.

As far as test honestly if you felt mature enough to do the deed then you should be mature enough to go to the store and pick up a test kit. At the very most get someone to do it for you who you trust.

Answer 4

*sigh* since when is 13 old enough to have sex. Ok, here are some things to ask yourself, since telling you that sex this young is bad is to late.

1. Did you use a condom. If you did, chances are you're okey.
2. Did he ***?
3. How regular are your period?

so, lets go over this again..

IF you used a condom, and t he condom did NOT break( and it's luber with spermicide) chances are you are okey. If you didn't use a condom, you could be in trouble.

If he didn't ***, then chances are slim, but you prolly aren't. If he did and you DIDN'T use a condom, you need to go to a doctor now.

And if your periods are always messed up, then there is another chance you are not preggers.

Now, about seeing a doctor. There are free clinics everywhere, or you could just go and buy a test. And if you are preggers, be prepared to face the music. If you are, you need to tell your parents that you made the mistake of having sex before you were old enough or mature enough. You need to have this baby. And then you need to give it up for adoption. There is no way you are the father can take of it so young. You aren't even old enough to have a job.

Now, as a lesson, if you are NOT preggers, thank Jesus, and don't do it again. Wait till you are a little older and a little wiser next time. Learn to use a condom and ALWAYS use one. And talk to your parents about getting put on birth control if you insist on having sex. If you are to embrassed to talk to them about it, or they won't let you, then you need to take that as a sign and wait until you are an ADULT to have sex again....

Answer 5

first of all, please abstain from having sex. at 13, you should be more worried about friends and sleepovers than what type of preg test you should buy! Second, I think you are old enough to buy one yourself, and I know you are scared to do it; find someone you trust who can buy one for you. Your period isn't that late, you are only a couple days, start worrying when you are a week or two late! Stress can cause a late period. you are 13 and your periods will still be irregular at that age. And if you really do think you are pregnant, tell your parents!!! I know you're scared, but for God's sake tell them before you get in a position (god forbid) where you HAVE to tell them you DEFINITELY are pregnant! Your mom and dad will respect you more if you tell them you ahead of time there might be the possiblity. good luck, honey!

Answer 6

You need to tell your parents first of all. You are only 13 and they are responsible for you until you are 18! Moodiness has nothing to do with being pregnant.How late is your period? You could have thyroid problems. That would definitely mess with your moods. Trust me, I am a mother of seven.

Answer 7

If you are only 13, your boyfriend is committing the CRIME of statutory RAPE, and he will soon go to PRISON. If the condom broke, you might have caught painful DISEASES from him, too.

At age 13, your periods are probably not regular yet. If your last one started on 12/18, you CAN'T be 'extremely late' yet. Ask your parents or teacher to educate you about sex.

Answer 8

Everyone else has answered the preg part pretty well for you....

I hope your aware that sex with a minor (under 16) is rape on his part, and extremely skanky on yours.

What is wrong with you kids these days?? having sex at 13 isnt cool, well i hope you have learned your lesson.

Hopefully your not preg, but if you are, i hope your ready to grow up real quick cos its not all fun and games.......

If you think you are old enough and big enough to have sex, you are big enough to go get tested, no excuses

Answer 9

Your only 13 so your period is bound to be irregular. If your last perid was dec. 18th then you arnt extemely late.

Your best bets are to tell your mom. Be honest with her/ Let her know that you felt you were ready to have sex but the condom might have brocken. If she yells and says you make a huge mistake then let her know it was YOUR mistake to be made and you can only learn from it.

Answer 10

I just had the same problem but I'm 16 what you need to do is get a test and you can take it at school and most likley you'll get your period your just late if you want i.m. me and we can talk