like i have this problem that i think that i aint good enough to talk to popular people and they just scare me... i dont know whats wrong with me? like i would never get the chance to think that maybe one day i might be like one of them that i might me popular?
2007-01-20 10:21:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your probably scared because you think there going to laugh at you
2007-01-20 10:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by laura z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the way society sets up the heirarchy of looks.
Such a shame.
You know, the pretty looking girls also have grey brains on the inside, try imagining your brain and theirs, you are now equal!
I have learned that the pretty ones just want you to be relaxed and chat to them as a friend too.
Maybe try not looking at their face or hair or body, look in their eyes then at their hands, the way they are sitting etc.
I may show you if they are less than confident too.
Talk about a subject not about looks.
ie do not say "your hair looks so great, I wish mine had that body....etc.
Its fine to say you look bright and sparkling today, then accept their return compliment and move away from the subject of superficiality!!!!
Do not confuse pretty with popular, and do not aspire to be popular because of how you look.
You are one of a kind, no matter how you look.
If you are shy, then say little, if you are gregarious then be the life of the party...... get the picture
In years to come others will remember what you were like, kind shy funny fair- minded, whatever is you, not what hours you put in to "look" special.
The fear you have of approaching prettier people is something that has built up over time, tackle it gradually.
Mark it in your diary, "Speak to Pamela today, subjects to bring up, tv show, pets, flowers blooming at present..... have a short conversation at first, don't let it get awkward. leave first, say see you next week,or tomorrow and congratulate yourself.
Hope this helps you honey.
2007-01-20 18:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a similar problem. except that i am popular so those peoples do talk to me. but i am very very self consious, i don't think that i am ever going to be good enough for this guy, see i always end up liking this one guy but i don't think that he has ever liked me ever. i'm just not good enough. when i find out that some guy likes me i find it dissapointing because it isn't the guy i want to like me, and i think its just an illusion that they are going through, cause i'm not pretty, hot, or anything like that. i'm short and slim and thats like it. its not like i don't try to look good i'm just not able to. but they way i see it is that it doesn't really matter what we look like all the time because i still have friends.
2007-01-20 18:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by cndrll_1613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about popularity, just be nice to people, be their frinds, join activities, you'll be popular on your own, maybe they might start talking to you then.
2007-01-20 19:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur just not self confident and u have 2 be, if u want 2 be friends with them.
2007-01-20 18:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by toni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be scared it is just natural to be scared just be yourself you'll calm down sooner than you think.
2007-01-20 18:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋