2007-01-20 10:17:49 · 43 answers · asked by Reo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, because love is not a word, but an action. If you say you love someone, yet your actions do not support your declaration of love, the other person will be confused and hurt on the inside.
Be honest with the other person if you're not in love. Eventually, the truth will come out and it is better to know sooner rather than later.
2007-01-20 10:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by marianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, even though you may not want to hurt their feelings, it is not right to lie to someone. Most people can cope with the fact that you do not love them, if they can not, and i mean that if they threaten to kill themselves over it, then there is a serious problem.
This also depends on the type of they are. As stated before, if they are obsessive about it and threaten to kill themselves, then they need to find help. A person should not have to endure a relationship that is based on the other living.
Another point is that feelings come and go, you can feel happy one moment then sad the next. Sadness goes away eventually; the person will get over it. You should not feel guilty about telling them that you shouldn't be together. If the relationship started off bad in the first place, then it should not continue. Now, if that bad start exists for quite some time, and I'm talking about months on end, then it should defiantly not continue. But, if it is a bump in the road of love, then you just keep on trucking.
2007-01-20 10:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bob From Accounting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends what it means to the person- if love is a big deal to the person saying it- meaning she's only told one other person, or this is the first time- it would be a slap in the face to return it so callously- but I've done it; so take that for what it's worth.
I think you're better off saying "I'm really happy to hear you say that because what I feel for you is really strong, but-" You know what- in the middle of typing this I changed my mind.
Just say it back- I mean people love everything on some level. I hated having chicken pox but loved all the school I got to miss. I love penny ala vodka- I love the beach- hell I love Yahoo! Questions. Just avoid the awkwardness and negative discussion youd have to entertain if you didn't say it back by going- "i love you too- come here," and embrace!
2007-01-20 10:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by toburn41 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to ask this question. Of course that isn't fair. It's better to hurt their feelings now than to keep up a lie until they find out and feel completely betrayed. If you lie to them, it's only going to make things worse when the truth comes out; by being honest from the start, you protect your integrity and the wounds you will inflict won't be as severe because you were simply honest, not telling them you loved them to protect them.
2007-01-20 10:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE do not tell someone you love them if you don't!! It may hurt them now, but in the long run it will be less hurt and anguish than if you do tell them you love them and let them believe it and then they find out you never did love them!! Over the past 3 1/2 years I have come to realize what true love is, when you have it you know it and there is no doubting it, so PLEASE, until you know for sure you are in love don't say those 3 little words!
2007-01-20 10:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not fair to do this to another person. It is best that you tell them now instead of ending up with more lies and feeling hurts. It will catch up with you - come out clean - tell them the truth. Just say that your intention is to be friends and nothing more.
2007-01-20 10:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by childofGod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not fair at all! You are giving them false hope. And if they ever discover that you don't, they'll want to know why you told them that you did, which is where guys like you will probably run and hide, change your number, not answer the door, etc. because you will be too cowardly to explain yourself. And if you are saying this just to get into her pants, then you, like millions of other guys, are the scum of the earth.
2007-01-20 10:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Megafunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to lead someone on to believe that you are in love with them when you are not. Honesty is the key. It would hurt their feelings much more to find out they have been lied to.
2007-01-20 10:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by KS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude trust me don't use the L word (love) unless you really mean it with all your heart and soul. That isn't a word you wonna throw out there not to hurt someones feeliings. You will do more harm then you think. Your hurting that person because you lie to them using that word and it's not true. Save yourself future pain from the person trying to hurt you and not use the L word.
2007-01-20 10:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by giya_98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth living a lie ? Just say you want to be friends, or the love you have is for a friendship and no further. Be honest and sometimes honesty hurts but is always the right way.
2007-01-20 10:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋