we'd rather them NOT kiss him? They're coming to see him for the first time next week, and will be traveling on a plane. I don't want them kissing him on the mouth after traveling and being around hundreds on people in the middle of flu season. Is that rude??? Also we've asked them to stay in a hotel because we only have a one bedroom apt. and my husband and I and the newborn and 2 cats all live there, and I feel it would be too crowded and messy with them sleeping on the living room floor for 4-5 nights. Then the middle of the night wakings when I like to go into the kitchen and get a drink and pump sometimes. Is this asking too much??? My husband's kinda making me feel bad about asking them to do this because he thinks we only should've been able to ask them to do this when he was FIRST brought home from the hospital, but not now??? Any advice?
2007-01-20 09:20:08 · 5 answers · asked by Melissa t 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
dont feel bad. your baby and its health is your primary concern right now. we went through the same thing. dont sweat it. if they dont understand and they get mad, they WILL get over it. and i dont blame you--you cant ever be too careful especially during flu season...just tell them it is a decision you and your husband have made and you would appreciate it if they would respect it.
2007-01-20 09:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by emsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is perfectly safe for you and your husband to kiss your baby on the lips. Germs are not passed through saliva anyway, they are passed through mucus. I honestly would not worry about the grandparents kissing the baby, especially now that he's a month old and not quite so "new", but it IS your decision and if that's something that you're not comfortable with than, by all means, speak up. Or, even, better, have your husband say something. I know he doesn't exactly agree with you but ask him to please support you on this, even if it seems silly. It doesn't have to be a big deal and don't be afraid of offending anyone. This is YOUR baby and it's your job to keep him safe. You know what's best for him and if anyone else has a problem with that than too bad. Stick to your guns, you're entrusted with the care and safety of that tiny, helpless baby. And don't feel bad for one second for asking the grandparents to stay at a hotel...you're doing it for their sake as much as yours!!
2007-01-20 11:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by sks42683 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMM your husband needs a reality check big time! The grandparents should have enough sense to know they cant stay at your place because not only are you still getting up @ night and pumping, the baby wakes up-maybe cries, your still adjusting to the change...but they also shouldn't want to! I mean come one, who wants to sleep in a living room on a floor mattress for 4-5 days, not me. I would think they would want some privacy and personal space. So I think if you went ahead and told them they would understand. They might want to stay somewhere else and not telling you because they don't want to hurt your feelings. As far as your husband, he needs to get with it. Tell him again how you feel and then if he doesn't understand tell him to bad this is the way it is, and until you can understand that here's a pillow and blanket let me know how you like the couch!
As far as kissing your baby, hunny thats your baby you control every situation that your child is in if you dont want germs on your child, tell them and tooo f****** bad if they dont like. But I think you maybe over stressing about this, if you tell them "Hey you just got off a plane, you have been around hundreds of people I would really not like you kissing the baby on or around the mouth. Hands, feet, forhead, belly ect fine but not the direct face" I think these peope would completly understand. If they dont then tell them hey thanks for not taking my feeling into concideration, heres some 4x6 and 5x7 visit and kiss these until you are ready to show me some respect.
2007-01-20 09:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by steamsmith 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
maybe I wouldn't kiss him/her for about a week or 2 cause thats why some babies get those little red bumpson their faces.I would just come out and say it"mom/dad you can't kiss the baby cause I don't want him to start breaking out.Even we're not kissing him for a while, but you can still play with him not so rough, thats all". And after that don't say anything else about it so she won't get mad.And if theres other children there I would tell them too.Also, when they want to hold the baby ,an adult should be right by their side (still holding the baby).say,its for its own good,don't take it personal!!!
2007-01-20 10:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by kenyatta l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor you...yucky situation. I would make sure they didnt kiss your baby on the mouth or the hands...since the baby puts his/her hands in their mouth. There are lots of sicknesses out there this time of year.
I think i would invite them to stay though...even if its uncomfortable. Telll you hubby though...while they are there it is hisjob to go inot the kitchen/livingroom during the night if they are in bed. It is the least he could do.
2007-01-20 09:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋