How do you deal with dumb people that are neighbors?

Question

Ive had a falling out with my neighbor because she was being petty and vindictive. I took care of her kid, her dog, and even her and her husband. I got tired of her head games and explained myself to her. Now she won't leave me alone no matter what I do. I get hate mail and find stuff on my back door. I have been avoiding her and not answering my door, phone, etc for her but she is persistent. She only does it on the weekends when she is home and bored. Everyone I talked to agreed me and my husband did nothing wrong that she is being childish and petty. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I know what you are going thru even though my situation has been somewhat fixed because I attacked back. My neighbors used to park in front of my brand new house and they even used my personal water hose without permission. I realized that been nice wasn´t the way to go with these individuals. Whenever they said good morning or Hi to me I would not answer back, even if I was face to face of them. Enough of my little issue, let´s see yours, If you have visual, tangible or any other kind of proof against this woman, take her to court right off the back, don´t hesitate because at this point, accordingly to your description of this matter she thinks that you are soft hearted, believe you me girl, I have been nice to lots of people regardles of color, race and so forth because I have always believed that my job in this world is to help everyone that I can ,whether I go to heaven or not ,and some of them made a LITTLE attempt to take advantage, it didn´t work. Keep in mind that sometimes legal issues take some of your personal time and be ahead of the game by making sure of any thing she might use to countersue you for, I hope you can solve this matter without the legal system, good luck to you.

Answer 2

She may be a childish manipulator trying to get the attention back and doesn't know how. Maybe there is a possible mental problem involved. I would say a soft answer turneth away wrath. Just limit conversational exchanges to "Hello. How are you today?" and small talk but totally ignore any hateful stuff. I like the suggestion of the nice note or confrontation where you keep your cool in the presence of witnesses from your friends/family to attempt a resolution. Just be nice but don't let her take advantage and explain that you felt like you were being used before and that's why you stopped the free services and that it was a one way street (if that was the case) and you simply must have time with your family and friends and if she wants to be your friend she will have to change your behavior. I know several girls who craved attention so bad that nobody wanted them around but when they were spoken to in the right way from a big sister type figure, they changed. This person who spoke to them ended up giving invitations to the formerly self-party crasher and was included in her wedding years later. Tell her why you are avoiding her and that you will continue to do so if she doesn't change. Make sure she understands your "No" and the reasons behind it before pursuing other options to enforce respect of your personal boundaries. Christ told us to love our neighbors as ourselves. This one could be a challenge but love breaks down barriers that nothing else touches.

Answer 3

Write her a note, and leave it by HER door. I know you don't want to be like her- leaving hate mail, being very immature, ..etc. But, I think that writing her a note will be best. In the note, tell her that you don't understand why she keeps sending you hate mail. Tell her that you took care of her dog, her kid...etc., and you deserve a little more respect from her. That's all I'd put in the note. See what she says. If she doesn't stop, just try to ignore it, or talk to her face-to-face about it.

Answer 4

i think you need to get a restraining order. this person sounds crazy, and before it escalates into something big, take some action. call the police and let them know that she is harassing you. keep track of everything: phone calls, letters, etc. don't lose your temper or say anything back to her, just be calm and tell her you don't want to associate with her. if all else fails, check with an attorney about filing a civil lawsuit. you shouldn't have to avoid answering your phone because you live next door to a lunatic!

Answer 5

the best solution is to gather up her hate mail & whatever she leaves at your door, call the police and have them file a harassment report as well as go to her home and tell her to cut it out. If she doesnät stop, take the police report to the courts, file a restraining order and if she comes on your property again, have her arrested.

Answer 6

well she is childish and petty she is like a freeking stalker u tell the police and they explain to her that what shes doing isnt right, u alredy tried and it didnt work and now it call for something with a little more athourity

Answer 7

you could get a court order to keep a certain distance from you. i can't imagine what else you can really do except for revenge. and that could land you in jail. for now, she sounds childish, probably jealous of you some how. i wouldn't do her any other favors. but i might try to figure out what she's jealous of, and rub it in real good.

Answer 8

Keep track of what she does. Keep things she sends you. Keep a detailed log of actual events. If this persists, you may have to take this matter to the police. If it comes to this, you have a history of her actions instead of just a gripe.

Answer 9

You can explain that if she can't find it in her mind to leave you alone you will file a protection order against her and if possible..record the conversation.

Answer 10

Sounds like she may be REALLY crazy, stalker type crazy. Be careful. Go to the police station and ask them for advice.