Thank you for answering the question.
2007-01-20 08:57:46 · 14 answers · asked by poeticjustice 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would rather be hated for who i am,than being loved for who I'm not...
2007-01-20 09:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
On the surface, your question seems to be pretty "cut and dry". A question that should get a definite "one way or the other" answer. So, on the surface, the answer HAS to be: Being yourself. As we question why, in looking on the surface, we have to say that it is for obvious reasons, i.e. the day to day "real life" interactions that we have with others are truly meaningless if we do not convey who we really are to the people we interact with. That doesn't mean that we have to reveal our inner most desires, thoughts and feelings to everyone that we encounter. It simply means that, it is not necessary to put on a "face" that is not your own. Being yourself is the only way that we can say to people, "I will not insult you by pretending to be something I'm not". Naturally, we would expect the same from others. On the flip side, there are unfortunately those who really need to "work" on who they really are.
As far as popularity is concerned: Some people are lucky enough to be popular because they ARE being themselves.
Some people are popular ONLY because they are NOT being themselves. It seems that "we" run into these types of people more often than any other. The beauty, though sometimes painful (if it is a personal) interaction, is that there are very few people who can keep up the "act" forever. The longer "we" see the pretense of someone's "true" self, the easier it becomes to see them for "who" they really are. Some people are easier to read than others, but the same reasoning holds true regardless.
It would simply make relating to people that much more rewarding and genuine if we all would just "be ourselves." It would also make it so much easier to avoid or, walk away from the people that we dislike because we see them for who they truly are.
Popularity is nice, but not everyone wants to be popular. Some people get their "rewards" in life simply from the truth and beauty that they find in what they encounter and who they experience in life. Those are the people who live their lives as "themselves". The rest is just the icing on the cake.
And... thank you, for asking the question.
2007-01-20 09:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Adam in Vegas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a good question, but also a kind of complex one. I mean, for some people, being popular could be a part of being themselves. There are lots of ways to look at this, but I think that it is, without a doubt, being the person you really. Think about it. People are always going to be coming into and leaving your life -- no one person will stay as a constant physical presence for your entire life, except one person. You know who that one person is? That's yourself. Only you have to live with yourself for your entire life. It sounds kind of obvious but you'd be surprised at how many people live their lives without acknowledging this fact. Knowledge is really useless unless you use it in some way.
I'm a high school student, and I see it around me all the time. There's this one girl I know who even said that she knows that if she stopped dressing in popular brand name clothing, she would lose a lot of the "friends" she hangs out with. You also need to reconsider who you consider friends. I think a friend should be someone you feel comfortable around, not the opposite, as if you're trying to impress him/her, right?
Also, if you pretend to be someone you're not for too long a time, you will eventually lose the sense of who you were born as. And for what? Trying to act a certain way to fit into a group of people, who won't be around for more than a few years? You need to consider the consequeneces of your actions, both positive and negative. I hope you choose what you feel is best for your life at this point. Good luck. ^_^
2007-01-20 09:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Green Emotion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being popular is more important if you are seeking attention in the short term. It will feel great to be in the "in" crowd. But before long, if you are not being true to yourself, you will tire of being popular and all the drama that goes along with that routine...
2007-01-20 09:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by woodu17 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
**** the popular people. Same thing happens to me and I'm a dude. I can't get a girlfriend because I'm not popular. But that doesn't stop me from skateboarding, or going on funnyjunk, or doing any of the other things that make me me. You wouldn't be happy if you changed yourself to become popular because your values would change and your life would lose track.
2016-05-24 01:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lorraine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't being yourself, then you are playing a role. This is called living a false life, an inauthentic life. You become very vulnerable if your goal is to please others. This is DEFINITELY a bad path for you to take, it will only lead to emotional problems and personal weakness.
Just be yourself. Work on becoming your best self. Be your own best friend. Be true to who you really are. This will make you stronger going forward. And man, you need to be strong to deal with the challenges that life will throw at you! You'll see.
2007-01-20 10:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is one of integrity vs. popularity. In general a desire to be popular is a desire for approval, although it can also be a desire for attention. Either way, you are calculating your appeal to people. People's valuation of that which is popular shifts from week to week and from one group to another. Thus you have to sacrifice integrity if you want to be always popular (well, most people do). This is a terrible price to pay, as it will leave you feeling empty and hollow.
2007-01-20 09:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people think popular is better, in my opinion, being myself is way more important. To me, it would be tiring to try to be someone you're not just to be popular. I want to be liked by who I am, not be liked by my social rank.
2007-01-20 09:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Alterna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually people who are popular are themselves and that is why they are popular. Actors who are popular have a strong sense of self and thus are able to act as other than themselves for a role.
2007-01-20 09:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being yourself... being popular isnt all as it is seemed to be. you deal with alot of petty drama. its better to be yourself... if your acting like someone else, how does that benefit you?.... where is this getting you?.. absolutley nowhere. be true to yourself... kids in school that are "popular" will probably end up living life as losers, and you'll never see them once you graduate.
2007-01-20 09:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by =] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being oneself because to be popular with everyone means forever changing yourself to accommodate whomever you might be with at the moment, resulting in not knowing who the hell you are. We can't please everyone all the time so we might as well please us to the best of our ability. And the only way to do that is to be who we are and to like that person. And that's just what I think.
2007-01-20 09:07:23 · answer #11 · answered by 123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋