my wife does not listen to me all the time and I do get upset with her over this. my question is for anyone who has or does have the same problem. how do you get them to listen without getting too upset and angry with them?
2007-01-20 08:55:48 · 9 answers · asked by michaelv37 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried to calmly talk to her but that does not work either. it is not so much as she does not care it is getting her attention and keeping it.
2007-01-20 09:58:55 · update #1
It's certainly frustrating when communication seems to be going one way only. You're going to have to be a bit more assertive here. Get her attention any way you know how, just don't be confrontational about it. I know; there's a fine line between the two, so think about what to do before executing your plan. Just make sure she sees and feels the affection driving your actions and how critical it is to have her attention. Then you can go on to resolving what you feel is needed to be resolved. Good luck.
2007-01-20 09:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you write down your concerns and then let her know that you want to sit down and talk with her about some concerns that you have written down for the sake of your relationship. Set up some ground rules. Tell her you want to do this quietly and calmly with no raised voices or leaving the area. Tell her you want to do this because you care about her and your relationship and want to get some things resolved. Ask her to give you a chance to express your feelings and then you will listen to hers. If she can't do this, I don't think it is a good idea to stay in a relationship that is so frustrating and your emotional needs are not being met. It sounds like you are not being understood, given a chance to speak or respected. You also can't change if she doesn't calmly come to terms with her basic problems. You also might try counseling but look for a good counselor that you both agree upon and has a good track record.
2007-01-20 17:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by StarGalactica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, speak quietly and stay calm. Keep in mind the end result you're looking for....and I'm guessing that's not more fighting. Try to keep her calm and explain that you want to talk and resolve the issue in a peaceful, grown-up way. Keep at it, and hopefully it will get easier. Good luck!
2007-01-20 17:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mr&MrsWoody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she already has her mind made up and doesn;t need to hear what you have to say. In stead of getting angry try saying " I really need for you to listen to me and understand what I am telling you" that way it doesn't come across as a comand but rather a request.
2007-01-20 17:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking...let her come to you and when she does tell her you have no intention of talking until she's going to not just listen but hear you. Good luck.
2007-01-20 17:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your problem.....u get angry.......Just sit her down and explain to her that u are having a problem with her ignoring you...If she still continues.. I would u to leave her cause that would suggest she has no respect for you......Best of Luck
2007-01-20 17:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak quietly.
2007-01-20 16:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by HAND 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her on it....take the lead....make her listen!
2007-01-20 16:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE HER A NICE WORKOUT.
2007-01-20 17:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by VALENTINO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋