Who has dreamed that they murdered their father? Why would I dream that I shot him in the heart?

Question

The dream seemed so real. He died instantly, and as I looked at his lifeless body I felt so many emotions rolled into one: relief, guilt, sadness, betrayal, and horror. I shot him with a pistol in the heart twice. I woke up absolutely terrified. I had to think for a second to make sure it was a dream. I would never be capable of this in real life, not ever. Why would I dream it? I feel most guilty for actually being slightly relieved in my dream when I looked at his lifeless body. Things have never been right with me and my father. He was very verbally and mentally abusive to me growing up. Thus, I do carry a lot of anger and resentment.

Answer 1

Some young people dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth.

Answer 2

It depends on which theory you believe.

According to Freud, the unconscious is the source of our motivations, whether they be simple desires for food or sex, neurotic compulsions, or the motives of an artist or scientist.

But then Jung adds the part of the psyche that makes his theory stand out from all others: the collective unconscious. You could call it your "psychic inheritance." It is the reservoir of our experiences as a species, a kind of knowledge we are all born with. And yet we can never be directly conscious of it. It influences all of our experiences and behaviors, most especially the emotional ones, but we only know about it indirectly, by looking at those influences.


More understandably, you probably dreamt this because of your resentment was stored in your subconcious and they played out in a dream about murdering your father for all he has done to you.

Answer 3

To understand a dream, it’s helpful to keep in mind why and how we dream. When we sleep, the body and perception systems are shut down, but the brain remains active. The brain thinks about what has recently been most active during waking hours—experiences, thoughts and feelings accessed recently whether consciously or not. The brain is still active, so it works on this content, but not in a familiar, rational way. During sleep, this material is not related using input from the external real world, but rather by the brain connections already established in the cortex. So the story connectedness isn’t like everyday experience, but rather a strange, circuitous flow from one image to the next. So dreams aren’t magical messages to guide our life, but dream imagery is taken from everyday experiences, thoughts and feelings that matter most to us during our waking life. So it’s a mistake to apply standard symbol definitions, such as Freudian meanings. All you need to do is think about what kind of imagery it is and how it relates to your daily life.

Therefore, your dream imagery makes sense. You resent your father and feel residual anger from the years of abuse. Whether you think consciously about it or subconsciously, these unresolved issues are on your mind a lot each day. That's why the images and feelings appear in your dreams. He's still alive and he probably still does things that hurt and anger you. In your dream, you strike back.

Answer 4

Look, don't even worry about it. I don't believe that dreams mean anything because if they did then I'd be a murderer since I dreamed that I drowned my younger sister. Plus, if you really wanted to kill him, would you be asking this right now? Just relax.

Answer 5

Foregive him because of his lack of love, for he most likely was treated badly by his parents.To help him understand himself,ask him how his parents use to treat him? When he finishes,say Dad I feel bad when you treat me like your parents use to treat you.Talking can build a great father son relationship.Good Luck.