Would you take back your rich ex- husband who cheated twice (one time for a whole year) (Married 20 years 4 kids). or stay with a really sweet guy you get along with great in every way but is always broke Makes $20,000/ yr, pays child support and has bad credit or find someone new?
2007-01-20 08:46:08 · 17 answers · asked by Mustang Sally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoever is going to make you happy. If the rich guy is a cheater, whats to say he wont cheat again? As far as the poor boyfriend, is money more important then happiness? When i married my husband he made well under $20,000 and also paid child support, we barely made ends meat....but he worked his A$$ off once we were living together and married, and he has made a wonderful life for us, and we are now expecting our 3rd child. Give the "poor" guy more of a chance, unless money matters more. I understand 20 years and 4 kids would make you want to go back, but if he cheated, is it worth it to have material things but no trust or happiness? You have to decide.
2007-01-20 08:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I know this too well... Get all that you can for child support from your ex and move on with someone new financially stable. Getting a job for yourself must be a good idea since you have to provide for 5 people (your kids and yourself). Do NOT waste time on a guy who can be potentially a burden to you. In your 20s it is probably easy to put up with with, plus all those hopes keep you going, but as time passes by and you are the one who in the end has to work your *** off and burnt out, is it really worth it?
2007-01-20 09:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by 20082008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure, not go back with the ex..... And tho I'm not high maintance, I think a guy ought to be able to stay outa debt, and have some job that pays well..... In your shoes???? Get up a personal ad on Yahoo, and find yourself a guy with some income... not rich, just some income..... Good luck hon... that's what I did.
2007-01-20 10:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go in the direction of most happiness. The ex will have to pay child-support. If you go to work too, finances and child-support and your boy-friends money ought to make for a good arrangement. Follow your heart.
2007-01-20 08:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with the boyfriend, get a job, because money isn't everything, and shouldn't be. if u get along great with him u have something most people don't have. u have wealth but just don't see it, never go back with the husband as he will keep cheating on u. happiness is wealth.
2007-01-20 08:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back to the x he'll cheat time after time. Ive been there, things will improve, with your new partner mine now has a good well paid job, after he took a chance on a job, and passed the course.
2007-01-20 08:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Ms G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rich or poor doesn't matter its how this person treats you and makes you feel . in this case the poor man your speaking of seems to treat you the right way so that a no brainer isn't it.
2007-01-20 17:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is money more important to you than having a stable relationship?I would sooner have someone thats poor and treats me well than to have someone humiliate me and could give me some kind of diease just because he has money.The latter is a jerk if you ask me.And if you pick him you deserve what you are getting because you don't want love you want money.Think about it
2007-01-20 08:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rich guy is out of the option. I don't know about the poor guy, though.
2007-01-20 09:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by White Shooting Star of HK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband makes less then that and we are happy stay with the one you are the happiest with! I would chose the poor one because of the love you share is he good with your kids? does he make you smile? can you picture a life with him? even if its simple? who is in your heart? answer these and you will know!
2007-01-20 09:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dakotah D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋