Okay I asked the question before now I am going to ask it with a little more detail. Loved one is in prison for 3rd DWI (in my state the add up all your life) last one before this one was 13 years ago, when he was young and stupid. He was .20 of a mile from the house when he got this one, going to your rent house 1/2 mile away to do some work. The legal limit in my state is .08 and he blew a .081. Only reason he was pulled over was a light was out on our trailer and we did not know it. He was sentenced to 180 days state time. He has 4 months left. Knowing those details; What do ya'll think? WOULD YOU STAY FAITHFUL TO YOUR LOVED ONE IF HE WAS IN PRISON? I have already made up my mind, just looking for opinions.
2007-01-20 08:42:46 · 24 answers · asked by Tweekiebear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I would stay faithful.He is not in prison because he killed someone or something.If you are using this for an excuse to cheat on the poor guy just do the right thing and divorce him.It would save him alot of heartache in the long run.So do the right thing if you love him get the stupid thought out of your head.But if you are going to cheat and be a ho well you are not worthy of any guy.
2007-01-20 08:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mean that you want others to form your character for you or find approval for the choice you've already made?? Not sure I understand the motive of the question. You spent most of it justifying his wrongs. Bad sign. Sounds like he needs to give his life to Jesus Christ and you as well and then wait and see what the Lord might work out for you both. I've heard some awesome stories. If this "loved one" is your spouse, that makes a huge difference. Also, is he a father to any of your children. If he is your avowed, you made your vows for better or for worse so if there's no fornication on his part, you should remain married to him and faithful as long as he doesn't desire a divorce from you. God can change the entire situation if you put it into His hands and not your own.
2007-01-20 09:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months isn't that long! If you are in love why would you even be considering not staying faithful? My god, are you in heat?
BTW... it is stupid to drink and drink no matter what the circumstances are... you just shouldn't do it. If it was so close he could have walked. There is no excuse for that.
But, it is not like he killed someone, committed armed robbery or is a rapist or child molester. Hopefully he will learn from his mistake. If your state is anything like mine he won't have to worry about it because he won't have a drivers license for a while.
2007-01-20 08:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really comes down to:
1. How much do you love him?
2. How much would it hurt him to find out you had not been faithful?
If you have been with him for a long time (years), then what is waiting for 120 days?
2007-01-23 14:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by John Hightower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Faithfulness is not an attainment and hence can not be followed upon someone's advice. Faithfulness is a feeble ray of light that can survive only deep within one's heart. If you are struggling to keep it deep within your heart, then you do not need a conselling.
Forget everyone and everything, just do what your heart says. These things are always one's own decision.
2007-01-20 08:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by Cyphor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! There are too many diseases out there. If you still love him. You will not cheat and leave. I f you don't love him anymore or think you will stop loving him in a few more months (10 months all together) then you know what you have to do. Life is to short!
2007-01-20 08:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind having a relationship with someone that can't seem to learn his lesson or abide by the laws of the road, then stay. If it were me, I would have been gone a long time ago. I had an alcoholic father and don't wish to endure any more of that bull.
2007-01-20 09:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The point is can he stay faithful to you and stop drinking,from his record I would say not,if you have made up your mind,I hope it is to move on and find someone that cares for you and stays out of trouble,you have no life this way.
2007-01-20 08:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship, and really want to stay together, i'd stay faithful. Guy's in jail and prison tend to think their partner's are out looking for a sex partner anyway. If it were me and only had to wait 4 months til he's out i'd stay faithful.
Of course i've never been one to even consider cheating in any relationship i've ever been in. course it wouldn't do me much good anyway, i've had so many health issues that my wife and i haven't been intimate in 6 years.
2007-01-20 08:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to stay married to this man? Then yes. If you are in the process of divorcing him, have a property settlement pending, papers are filed, then no. But for sure, He'd goddamn better get into AA when he gets out.
2007-01-20 10:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋