Closed off the world around them? Separate themselves from society altogether? I know someone like this and it's a very sad situation. She's been through a great deal of trauma but used to be one of the most kind hearted people I have ever met. I don't have a clue what's going on with her. Thanks for your answers.
2007-01-20 08:18:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Perhaps it's her way of self-protection. If like you say she has been through a lot of trauma, what if she experienced something again, she may have decided enough is enough. She may also be in reflection mode - asking herself why and perhaps tying to search out the answer.
It might be beneficial for you to ask her if she'd like to talk, if she agrees, then you need to be a wonderful listener. Let her talk for as long as she likes. Do not offer her advice or a solution to what she is speaking about, unless she specifically asks your assistance.
Often times people need to voice what they are going through in order to put it in another perspective before they visualize a solution.
She might confide an issue that neither one of you can solve without professional guidance/assistance.
Remember to maintain all confidentiality. The worse thing you could do is to break confidence. The only instance where you may have an ethical responsibility to break confidence is if she is going to harm herself or another.
2007-01-20 08:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels like her way of dealing with life in the past was wrong, so she doing the opposite...there are so many maybes. She could now feel that's life too short to worry about other people and she wants to live in a materialistic world to see what it;s al about. You could always ask her what brought on this new identity of hers, but if you say she went through some trauma, then be her friend, accept that she's going through something and that maybes she's not sure how to handle it.
2007-01-20 08:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people who are fortunate to have grown up in a healthy, nourishing environment are lucky enough not to get hit with the negatives of life. So they seem okay for awhile. However, this person who probably had some reason to be optimistic in the past was since blown away with some recent incidents she found overwhelming and negative, which may have indeed destroyed any faith she had prior in humanity. She needs counseling and support services to help her work through these issues and to become more resiliant in the future.
2007-01-20 08:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Angela B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody grieves in their own way, and this sounds like what she is doing. A great deal of trauma could trigger this. As a friend, you need to continually Be There for her. Don't let her close herself off, she needs the world around her. Don't force her to talk, but try to draw talk out of her, subtly. But the main thing is keep inviting her out, go places and do things with her. Remain her friend and give her an ear to listen if she chooses to talk.
2007-01-20 08:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question. "She's been through a great deal of trauma ". Trauma changes a person, and the outcome isn't always for the best.
2007-01-20 08:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by greenwitch822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "best" people tend to have the worst self-defense mechanisms.
That's why we're not as resilient when trauma strikes.
Good luck to this person, and all like her!
2007-01-20 08:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre asking a question for which there is no clear answer, because we do not know the person you're describing personally. There could be any number of reasons, and you wont find them here.
2007-01-20 08:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once i had a problem,i thought everyone on the world is good and everything...Then one day i came to realize its not so...I was completely broken and didint go out of my room that day...But i am oki now,hopefully she will overcome that too...
2007-01-20 09:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason you recognize them is by using the fact it grow to be created by way of yet another human. i don't have God and yet I nevertheless stay by way of those words, I kill maximum folk with kindness,, I smile at my enemies and walk faraway from beside the point themes. with or devoid of god there might nevertheless be good human beings doing good issues and undesirable human beings doing undesirable issues and that i've got met people who believed in God and that they have got been extra evil then i might desire to ever understand...all of it stems all the way down to you. in case you prefer to be that way then you definately will, its will skill.
2016-10-07 11:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what you said; she's been through alot. That changes a person and not always for the better.
2007-01-20 08:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by chieko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋