2007-01-20 08:16:22 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
You don't need to be ALONE in order to feel LONELY. Lonely can be more than just a simple "by yourself" VS "with other people" concept. It can be a feeling of isolation, in that you can't believe there is any other person that feels the way you feel, or that truly understands you.
You can be in a happy relationship, and be truly happy with that person in your life....and yet, there can easily be that feeling... that feeling that your partner doesn't always truly understand you, or doesn't really KNOW what you feel and why. They cannot though, because they are their own person, NOT you. They haven't lived your live, haven't experienced whatever you've experienced. It can leave you feeling a bit isolated, or Lonely. Even when you don't think you should be feeling that way. Sometime we cannot control our feelings inside, but we all try to control the way they express them to the outside. (keeping ourselves "in check" , if you will)
There is nothing wrong with feeling lonely, but if you are wanting to stop that feeling, perhaps you can try to really open up and really express your thoughts and feelings to your spouse. Hopefully they are the kind of person who would be receptive to that and really make an effort to understand your perspectives....
2007-01-21 08:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by luv2roq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all!!! Your marriage just needs some deversion!!! If your feeling lonely, but your "Happily Married" than something's lacking in your life, somewhere!! It could mean, your tired of the "Same Ol' , Same Ol'" you know..... Maybe, you two ought to take a vacation somewhere different, or go do something you normally dont do, or buy an animal, like a cute puppy, or a snake, or go on a long shopping spree, anything to determine what it is that's giving you the "Blues", or maybe its you do have everything and do go everywhere, and you have the "Perfect life" but you dont have God, in your life to fill up that VOID, in your heart, you know...... We weren't put on this earth, to just live, eat be Merry , get married and just die!! God has a plan for each and every one of us!! And until we draw near Him, we never will know what our lives were meant to be, in the first place!!! God will fill-up that emptiness & lonliness in your heart, in "Heartbeat!!" I promise you this!!! He will Draw Near to you, if You draw near to Him, but you have to make the first move..... By going to church, and I dont mean these "Social Clubs" they call church either!!! I mean a Spirit-filled, God fearing church!!! The Pentecostal type's of churches!!! And soon you'll be on here either "Preaching" to others or defending God, from all of those Atheists on here, before you know it !!! I cannot emphasize ( your decision to go to church being the Best choice you ever made, in your life), enough!!! The Best of luck to you & your's!!! Smile!!!
2007-01-20 16:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird to feel lonely at any time. Some things just can not be discussed with a spouse.
Both partners need to have friends,
2007-01-20 17:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are places in our soul that our meant for self alone...
relationship with someone else can never truly fill the need for one's one space, and one's own self-worth.
Sometimes, that includes having other people outside of the marriage.
I think this is just a sign that a person needs a little more of something totally outside the marriage!
2007-01-20 16:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because as a species we are a lonely sort. Always looking up at the stars, always wondering. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with your marriage, just means your the meloncholy sort.
Remember your mate is their to talk to you, and listen to your soul; so don't shut them out and make yourself lonelier.
2007-01-20 16:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by chieko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not, sometimes when your in a relationship not all of your needs are meet. if this person really loves you, you should be able to talk to them and engage in what the problem is.
2007-01-20 19:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by flipnskins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex life sucks huh?
2007-01-20 16:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by So... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋