Am I ready for another baby?

Question

I have twim girls that are 10 mons old. My husband works second shift and sometimes is not the best helper. Sometimes I want to have another baby. Well now I am kinda being forced into becoming pregnant as soon as my girls turn one. I know this sounds like crap but I became catholic when I married my husband and now the preist is telling me that I basicly have to get pregnant and when I try to explain how I feel he sounds like he is disgused with me and asks why having more children is distasteful to me. I dont beleive having a s**t load of children is the only way to please god and Is not the only reason to marry is to have a s**t load of kids. (please dont insult my religion to be mean) Also I have a weird body and run a high chance of twins every time Because I drop more than one egg during ovulation

FOR YOUR INFORMATION I AM A COLLAGE GRADUATE AND YOU TRY TYPING WITH A BABY ON YOUR LAP!!! DONT PASS JUDGMENT ON ME LOOK AT YOURSELF FIRST AND TRY TO TYPE WITH A BABY ON YOUR LAP THAN TELL ME IM IGNORANT!!!!!

Answer 1

It may be against your new beliefs, but they should be happy you have two happy healthy children,God has blessed you and your family.It is your body, and you are the soul one taking care of your little angels.If you feel presured into having more children,let them no you have two new babys now ,that require alot of love,care and a mom and dad that can do this without ,being selfish and having a bus load of children.If you want more little ones it should be up to you and your husband when you do so.It does not matter what others say, there not carrying multiples in there tummy for 9 plus months.On the other side ,children are a joy ,I would not be the same without my three little girls 9,6,1yr.old. So I do understand where you are coming from.

Answer 2

Hi, I am also Catholic and have been all my life, however I think in every religion there are somethings we feel strongly about and others we don't. In choosing a religion I don't think you should have to agree with every aspect. It is your body, and your life. You will be the one responsible for raising those children, not the church; they are there for support but not the difficulties of everyday living. Children are great (I have 2 of my own) but it is important to plan when YOU are ready to both be pregnant again and be the mother of more. I personally do use birth control, because I am simply not ready for more right now, later on yes but not now. I hope everything works out for you, having twins already must be both a blessing and a handful!

Answer 3

In the Catholic religion birth control, sterilization, pulling out, etc, are not allowed because you aren't supposed to control what God should. However, a lot of Catholics practice natural family planning, which is encouraged, by the church.

I myself don't believe in birth control because I believe that children are created when the sperm fertilizes the egg, not when they implant. Birth control sometimes prevents implantation. BUT, I do believe that it is between you, your husband, and God about when you will have kids. If you feel you won't be able to handle it, your priest (no offense) is a moron. Your children should be able to live in a happy, healthy environment. Not one where you are overly-exhausted (even more than a normal mother!) and can hardly get any time for anything!

Answer 4

There is a difference between having a number of children to please God, and damaging yourself. Ideally, for a woman's body to SAFELY handle having as many kids as she likes, she needs to wait at least 2 years between pregnancies. It also helps that you're less likely to have all of the children in diapers, and the older children, even at a small age, can help some. Little things like handing you the powder that's not quite in reach when you're changing a diaper. And being able to at least entertain themselves for a few minutes while you deal with the younger ones. God loves us no matter what. I'm sure if you pray about it, you'll realize that He'd rather have you joyfully bring more children into this world later, rather than feel pressured to do it now, and possibly resent your children, husband, and even God himself for "forcing" you into a stressful situation before you're ready. Kids are GREAT! I have 2. But they're 2 1/2 years apart, and I can't imagine them being closer. I'm amazed at the people who DO manage it! Good luck, and God Bless!

Answer 5

If you don't want a baby, don't have one. The priest is not the messenger of God: the priest doesn't know what God wants or what God will do. You know inside that God isn't going to sotp loving you just because you don't want another baby. If you force yourself to have one, complications will arise in the future, and there will be a lot of arguments between you, your husband, and a lot of other people, about how you didn't even want the kid in the first place.

Answer 6

I don't think you should have a baby because your priest wants you to. You should have one because YOU want it and feel ready. Is this priest or your religion (which I am as well) going to pay for the expenses children bring with them?? Only have a baby if you really feel ready for it. Your twins are small, enjoy the time you have with them. I have two boys and they are 6 yrs between them and I don't want any more for now - and that's because I (not my religion) don't want anymore children.

Answer 7

if you feel you are not ready, if ever, to have another baby then take birth control! You know what's best for you. If your priest pressure's you to have more children then reply with a polite "it's in Gods hands". and it truely is because God is everywhere including inside of you guideing you to make the right decisions. Good luck and congratulations on the twins!!!

Answer 8

Honey in case you wont yet another one choose for it.. even nevertheless your 38 you are able to nevertheless have a toddler... Nancy grace is in her 40's and shes having twins! So age shouldnt rely if your as much because it and you wont it..little ones are reward and extremely particular and theres no longer something like it contained in the international! Congrats on having 6 teenagers..alot of females could no longer preserve that many.

Answer 9

I am not trying to bash your religion but I dont think any priest should tell you when to have a baby. There are only 2 people who need to make that decision you and your husband. Kids cost alot of money and you need to be relly ready to have more I would give it more time before concieving again but then again its your decision to make good luck.

Answer 10

I have no desire whatsoever to insult your religion, but it seems to me that your decisions regarding childbearing are up to you and your husband, not your priest. The fact is that having children is a huge responsibility, and you already have your hands full with infant twins. I don't blame you one bit for being reluctant to have another child (especially another multiple pregnancy) at this point, and I don't think that you should be forced into it.