So my boyfriend and i have dated for over a year. we also live 3 thousand miles apart.
we wanted to be together for our second year.. which is in april.
it also happens to be two days before Easter..
he wanted to stay two months then changed his mind because his mom didn't like him not being home for easter.
is it wrong for me to be angry with him? he's 22 years old.
he even gave me an ulti matum about whether i see him on valentines day or our second year.
plane tickets are cheap now but he wants to wait.. and no only that he was pretty much like " its your fault for getting your hopes up"
when i told him not to tell me this .. because he knows i'll take his words and put a plan of action behind them.
does anyone else see how faulty this is or am i taking crazy pills? My own boyfriend doesn't want to be with me for two months...
can anyone lend some helpful (sincere) advice.
i know some of you are out there.
thanks
-restless in seattle :/
2007-01-20 07:53:58 · 6 answers · asked by Rabbecca W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well if he was like 17 or something i could see him listening 2 his mom but he's 22! like the first answer said he shouldn't be living by mommy's rules. he's a grown man now n he could've made the decision 2 come see u n just tell his mom that he's sorry but he wants 2 see u. easter isn't a major holiday n most families don't spend time with relatives on that day anyways. easter's just a fun thing 4 the kids. it really has nothing 2 do with grown-ups unless they're getting kids baskets or something...lol. he had the decision 2 either see u or listen 2 mama n he listened 2 his mom. the only big holidays r the ones where ppl get off 4 work or kids get out of school. easter is just a fun little holiday and 85% of americans don't even celebrate it. it's not a big deal n i don't know why his mom would want him with her on that day. tell him that ur upset cuz u don't know why he doesn't want 2 see u 4 two months. tell him that u know he luvs his mom n wants 2 listen 2 her but tell him that u don't consider easter a major holiday n u want 2 see him on that day. i'd just kinda break the whole thing off. i'm sorry honey but long distance relationships r hard 2 keep.
2007-01-20 08:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 22-year-old who says he can't come see you because his Mommy wants him home for Easter is no grown man. He is still a little boy who is hiding his real feelings behind his Mommy's apron -- using her for an easy excuse. He does not want to come and see you, I am sorry to report, but you have asked for unbiased opinions, and this is mine. He is not mature enough to tell you so.
Never settle for a boyfriend who is still a boy. His most direct statement was that you have gotten your hopes up too high. Your hopes are too high for this relationship. Let him go, and go for local. So much more fun to have a boyfriend you can actually see on a regular basis.
I think that ultimatum is bunk. What effort is he putting into you? Let that guide your decision. Step-by-step, Sweetie, in the opposite direction from this baby boy.
2007-01-20 08:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Restless in Seattle, It's hard to say what's really going on. My first thought and impression is that he's trying to find a time where he can visit and have quality time with you without anything else interferring. If he was seeing someone else or not serious about you he wouldn't be doing this long distance relationship with you so he cares. He is also probably nervous about the thought of your time together. He's a man and men always think about their performance and how and if they are going to please us.
2007-01-20 08:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question! It's real hard having a long distance relationship, you don't get to have the one on one feeling. After reading what your bf said to you, you need to decide if you truly have a good relationship or not? Where is his compassion for you? It truly sounds to me something is missing in the relationship, even if it is long distance or not. The ball is in your court, so I guess it's your call on how you want to live your life! Or better yet, how you want to be treated. I wish you the best!!
2007-01-20 08:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..he clearly does not care about your feelings.And at age 22 he should have cut the string's to his mommy's apron.You are too good for him and you desreve better.Long distance relationships hardly ever work.Move on and find a man that will love and respect you.
2007-01-20 08:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem to me that he cares about you.
Make him choose between you and his Mommy, and things will become clear
Good luck
2007-01-20 08:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet_summer_breeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋