i love this guy whoz almost 16 and im 12 and we both r in love w/ each other and want 2 be 2gether but we cant b/c i live in Ohio and he lives in W.Virginia we have NEVER met each other b4 weve only talked on the phone and on IM i ve seen him on webcam and stuff but hez NEVER seen me exept in pictures.EVERY single time i talk 2 him on the phone i end up crying b/c i want 2 be with him so bad.... he said he would date me but he wont just but we cant c each other in person and he would just love 2 hold me in his arms at least just once !!! i HAD a b/f and i broke up w/ him 4 this new guy and i WAS in that other relationship 4 2 yrs !!! wat should i do ???
2007-01-20 07:38:15 · 14 answers · asked by Meagan G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you left someone for a long distance relationship, dummy, you have alot to learn yet, be with someone you see, not with someone you only talk to on the phone, unless you can physically see them: it is not a relationship... stick to someone closer to you and your age, 99 percent of the time, long distance relationships do not work out...
2007-01-20 07:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should spend more time with people you can see "in real life". You need to remember that people can be or say anything they want on the internet and it isn't always true. Also, at 12 years old, you have a lot of life to go through before worrying about boyfriends. Isn't just a friend you can talk to and see and hang out with in real life worth a lot more than a boyfriend who may or may not be all you think he is, but who you may never see? Keep the correspondence fun---but the serious stuff for your real life friends.
2007-01-20 07:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 12. You will survive. A 16 yr old and a 12 yr old are not on the same page emotionally. My advice...stay a kid and don't grow up too quickly. Cease communication with him. You will have plenty of time in upcoming yrs for truly meaningful relationships closer to home.
2007-01-20 07:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by HuskersRock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me try to clear up some of the confusion for you.
I am afraid that you aren't going to like some of this, but 1st you need to ask yourself how much you like things the way they are right now?
1st of all, you say you are 12, & that you just broke up from a relationship that lasted 2 yrs. That means you started a long term relationship at the age of 10. That is way to young to start having a boyfriend, even at 12. At your age, you haven't had enough time for your social skills to get sophisticated enough for you to really handle having a boyfriend. Look how messed up, & confused you are already. Life for you would be so much simpler if you just met with boys & then danced with them at school dances, & parties. You are just unnecessarily complicating your life right now by trying to have a boyfriend.
2nd of all, no matter what your age, long distance relationships are tough to handle. Most people don't recommend them for ANYBODY. But for a 12yo girl it can add up to nothing but heartache, & disaster.
You are feeling a lot of pain emotionally right now, & the one who is most responsible for causing that pain, is YOU!
Perhaps one day you & this boy in West VA can meet up when one of you is old enough to drive, & travel the vast distance between West Va, & Ohio. But right now you owe it to yourself to share your life with boys that are closer to you both in age, & geography.
I am sure there are lots of boys that attend the same school as you do that long to hold you in their arms right now. All you have to do is give them a chance by not getting yourself all wrapped up emotionally in a boy you can't even touch physically.
I know that this isn't the answer that you think you want right now, but to entertain any other ideas would be simply foolish.
So relax, have fun, meet boys in your own neibourhood, & don't start calling any of them your boyfriend until you can handle it better emotionally.
Take Care!
2007-01-20 08:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 12, whats the hurry! you are definitely not ready to get so serious with someone. You need to be realistic about these things. Why would you brake up with someone you have known for a while just to be with some guy you know nothing about.....You are in too much of a hurry to grow up....enjoy being a KID as long as you can....It's infatuation and not love....
2007-01-20 07:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by ducala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The saying goes if you really love someone you WILL WAIT. In your case, it means that you both need to wait until you are 18. For a couple of reasons:
One is age: He is older than you. If you two are dating when he turns 18, he could get arrested or at minimum in a lot of trouble for dating someone under 18 (which is you).
Travel: You are both under 18. You should wait until you can legally travel when you turn 18.
Truth: You need to becareful. There are many guys who claim to be younger than they are. We call them PERVS. You can watch them on Dateline NBC. They prey on young girls and boys. At minimum these guys scar you for life by trying to take advantage of you. They may rape you. They may abuse you. They may beat you. Or they may STEAL YOU, send you to another country and do really scary things to you. Since you have never met this guy - DONT TRUST HIM. I don't care how many pictures he sent you, or how many times he talked with you on the phone. Seriously, he can lie about his age, and fake his picture.
If he is really 16 and he really loves you, he will wait until you turn 18 so it is legal for you both.
Now, go talk to your parents about this guy you met online. Let them know you really like him. See if they will call his parents. Maybe the two families can meet. This way you know he's for real. Seriously, go tell your parents.
2007-01-20 07:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
little girl you need to force on your schooling that stuff you and that boy is involved in is not love and you need to leave that computer and that web cam stuff alone that boy don't love you honey and you don't love him you baby don't rush yourself into trouble before you can even turn 21.What you are in love with is an elugen that boy is not telling you what is true he is telling you what he want you to know about him to get you to come out and visit him and get you all turned out and leave you out in the cold you are to young for this type of thing where is your parents ? Do they know that their twelve year old daughter is in love with a stranger? honey take it from this stranger leave that guy and that computer and web cam along before it's too late and your family is on the news talking and crying about you being lost or something worse. plz child put all that energy you are putting in that 16 year old boy in your school and baby excel to better you and love will come to you later on in life. You should be telling your parents or another adult about this affair you've got going on with this 16 year old boy. plz plz leave him alone plz.
2007-01-20 07:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your only 12 you shouldn't even be dating and he's 16 what the hell does a 16 year old want with a 12 year old that's just wrong
2007-01-20 07:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be care full. When somebody tells you that he wants to hold you in his arms, at least once. I would think,that he just wants to have fun, At least once. Then he is gone. Take your time. If somebody really cares about you. He would wait.
2007-01-20 07:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by EL UNICO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur 12 i will tell u to wait, and plus u guys are far away, im sorry to say but move on to someone closer.... it will be hard but stop now so u dont fall even more for this guy
2007-01-20 07:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by KillerSE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋