The other night my really good friend told me her dad did drugs recently. Im afraid to go over there but i dont wana not be friends with her becuse of her dad
what do i do
2007-01-20 07:25:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
♥ ♥ you can still be her friend just not at her house...and I would tell her why...♥ ♥
2007-01-20 07:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell your friend how you feel, and she should understand. If she doesn't then you will have to deal with it in another way.
I had the same problem I have a friend and I use to spend the night at her house a lot, but her mom remarried to this weirdo that I didn't have a good feeling about. I told her that I didn't feel comfortable staying over night anymore, and she agreed and understood my point of view.
Follow your instincts and if you don't feel safe don't let her talk you into coming over.
- Good luck!
2007-01-20 07:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Bridget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable for any reason.....especially because of drugs or sex....always...I repeat always go with your instinct. Stay away. Instead make her come to your house. There is no reason to put yourself into a bad position. One day, the Police will show up...and you certainly don't want to be there if that happened. I'm sure your friend doesn't either...try to convince her to get help for her dad.... it will make him a better dad and a better person if he gets the help. But until then...stay away. If she doesn't understand that...find a new friend.
2007-01-20 07:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out at your house. You are smart to stay away from her house because if there's drugs in their house and the police come, they can haul you off too. Which would then involve children services and your parents. Tell her that you rather hang at your house because you aren't in to drugs and don't want to be around them. She will understand, she probably has the same fears about her father because she brought up the subject to you. Maybe she needs to rap with you about what's going on.
2007-01-20 07:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stop going over there you arent a good friend. she told you that so you could be there for her because she trusts you. a lot of people do or have done drugs sweetheart. it's part of this life here on this sick earth... your parents proably have to you just don't know about it. what are you gonna do if you find out they did run away... its not your problem if her dad does drugs. be a good friend. he isnt going to hurt you has he ever tried to? dont hold something so small against him it's not fair... people make mistakes...
2007-01-20 07:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by heclee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friendship with your friend has nothing to do with her father. You can't blame your friend for her fathers actions, that is completely wrong. If you don't feel good about going over to your friends house, that is understandable, but to stop being friends with your girlfriend is nonsense. Your girlfriends should be talking to her father, and telling him how she feels about him doing drugs. The father is not setting a very good example-that's for sure!
2007-01-20 07:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a pothead you're safe. They're merely slow and/or silly. Just keep distance when he's smoking.
If he's a cokehead or anything harder... then invite her to your house or outings away from her house. But don't end the friendship b/c of her dad. That's a bit harsh and childish. Do not, however, involve yourself with her family's drama.
2007-01-20 07:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by mia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs you. Support her any way you can. Get help for her dad. Be very cautious when you are around the dad. Drugs make people very irrational and sometimes crazy. Be there for your friend. She really needs you now. Just be very careful.
2007-01-20 07:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by jesus_lover1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell your parents. They will probably contact the police to get this checked out and you dont need to tell your friend that it was you who reported him. I know this sounds like youd be betraying a friend but you really wont be because her dad could get high one day and do something that could really hurt her. Trust me, contacting the police is the right thing to do.
2007-01-20 07:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what to do. You already said you don't want to be friends and you don't want to go over there. Both statements are wise.
Be too busy to stop by. Then find new friends.
2007-01-20 07:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mature Witch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel it's wrong to not want to be friends with someone because of their parents but in a case like this you should limit the times you see her. You're very wise to make this decision.
2007-01-20 07:30:09 · answer #11 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋