Why would you want an abusive man in your life? Please get some help and contact the YWCA. 1/2 of all murdered women were killed by their former spouses or lovers. NOBODY ever deserves to be abused! Call this number right away! 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). And no, they rarely change on their own. If he really loves you, he will seek help before even attempting to reunite. I am not saying it isnt possible (reunification) but dont rush it and make sure you are safe and he is in counseling.
2007-01-20 07:30:52
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answered by Anonymous
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No My Love, I've been down the same road the first 10 years were fine, but the last 9 were hell, my x started hitting me, just little one to start, but as the years went on I ended up with fat lips, black eyes, 1 affair, then finally I ended up with a broken nose only to find out he was having an affair again and with the same women from 9 years earlier. think that explains it. I finally told him to leave, and filed for a divorce, im now with another younger man who is the best of the best. I never thought i would find someone so soon, but there r good men out there, you just need to find him, but ditch the bully once and for all, he'll never change just get worse. SOMEONE WHO KNOWS
2007-01-20 08:08:52
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answered by Ms G 1
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Its time to go.Im sure you love this person , but..lets look at things. The big thing...you dont have children , Im not entirely sure what your financial status is or how involved he and you are , but it seems minimal. Youve already self admitted that this guy is an "a$$" to you. He's hit you , he verbally abuses you and is controling....these are your own words. Anyone in their right mind would tell you to sever your ties with this person. Its just not a healthy relationship. If you stay , you only have yourself to blame if you continue to be unhappy. Im sure youre a nice girl , and most men would love to have you , If you go back...Youll have made your bed...now its time to go to sleep
2007-01-20 07:38:51
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answered by S N L 1
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If you like being single then stay that way. I went through an abusive marriage and I got divorced after many years of abuse and control. I loved being by myself and enjoying the peaceful life that I had. Being with someone who is abusive and controlling is not worth it. I am married again and doing much better than the first one.
2007-01-20 07:40:38
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answered by Nancy M. 4
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You have to decide either you love him or not. A man doesn't change even if he says he is. You dont deserve to be in a violent relationship no one does. You need to be happy and if he hits you then he doesn;t love you. He has not proven anything so you need to be careful. You have a lot of time to decide but single life is great but then theres a point in your life that you need someone by your side in good or bad. Be careful and what ever is your decision dont let him heat because he doesn't love you as you say he does. True love is wonderful and not painful. Good luck!!!!
2007-01-20 07:30:11
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answered by jessica 2
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Now that you have said that he "hit you" I would NEVER go back to this man. File for divorce and the sooner the better. Men who hit will only continue on a ever increasing scale until you wind up dead.You deserve someone who treats you nice. Most men would NEVER hit their spouse. He does NOT love you. Love is respect, caring, generosity, giving, listening, and sharing. Not controlling, yelling and hitting.
2007-01-20 07:31:20
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answered by Mark W 2
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my dear nobody has to put up with the abuse that you have. Just say good bye to that person and say hello to the new people that you are going to meet. Under no circumstances take him back. There are guys that would be so happy to praise a woman like yourself and love you to pieces. Why would you settle for less. Girl you are worth it. So go for new experiences and a new life. Thats all I can tell you. Good Luck on your journey.
2007-01-20 07:36:28
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answered by Bruce 4
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The abuse is no good and I would think that eventually he would do it again. This means you would have to kick him out again. Do you have any confidence that he wouldn't abuse you again? You did the right thing by getting out of the situation are you sure you want to put yourself right back in it with an abusive person? Think this over carefully. Good luck
2007-01-20 07:30:45
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answered by Anonymous
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Answer this question. Has he done the time for the crime? It is a crime to hit another without cause. If he hasn't done the time, NO WAY should you let him back into your life. Doing the time means getting help so that it won't happen again and paying his penalty.
2007-01-20 07:35:19
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answered by DelK 7
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Do not allow yourself to be treated like that. If he truly loved you, he would never do those things to you! Enjoy living the single life for a while and meet some men who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, but please save yourself the trouble and pain and DON'T go back to him.
2007-01-20 07:36:38
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answered by mills62584 2
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