My husband and i have split up... and i have been with another man since, and i of course told my husband, and he's not thrilled, but he's understanding. He still loves me, and wants me to take him back, but i'm not sure if i should be single for awhile, and check out my options, or give him another chance?
2007-01-20 07:11:08 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on, you're not ready to commit. Free your husband.
2007-01-20 07:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like marriage might not be the thing for you. If you even think you might want to be single or check out different options then you don't realize what marriage is and maybe you need to reflect on that not playing the field. Ask yourself what he did and what you did to cause the split. Marriage is a serious commitment that takes work, you don't have a split up and move on to another guy then when that falls apart go back to whats familiar. If I were you I would do some serious soul searching and if you find that commitment isn't for you get divorced don't make your husband suffer anymore while you play the field.
2007-01-20 07:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by dcforensics51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband got jealous and now he wants you back,but unfortanatly his jealousy isnt going to keep you together so I would be asking myself what broke us up to begin with,I mean there is a reason you are not together right?If you are enjoying your freedom,then stay free because usually it doesnt work out to take someone back,not only will you have your old issues now you will have brand new ones like being with another man for example,hes not going to bring that up 24 7 be sure your ready for your marriage before you jump back in it ,I have been divorced twice i never look back because,ive never found a reason to,the problems that broke you up unless you have resolved them will still be problems!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-20 07:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any kind of feelings for him? Love is kind, it is about the OTHER person. Yes, he loves you, but if you don't love him back then he's being selfish and possesive.
I suggest dump both men for a while and be free. You need to quite giving to men and give a little to yourself. Go get a manicure and see that movie with your friends, take a weekend trip to your favorite place (don't make it too expensive thought).
You need some time to yourself. Alone-time will help you think better. Once you've had some time to yourself, make your decidtion.
good luck
Me Hopes Me Helped =)
2007-01-20 07:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally it takes a minimum of about six months to "recover" from a separation under duress. And involvement with another guy in the interim extends that time--a lot. Take some time and become single then decide. Then, think about what it is that has changed that will allow you and your husband to be compatible.
2007-01-20 07:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is hard to say when you didn't explain why you split up in the first place. Did he cheat, lie, or something that you can't handle like do drugs or go to jail? I recommend that you sit and talk about what happened in the past and see if you can work through that and move on together with shared goals in life. If not, move on sooner than later and enjoy yourself.
2007-01-20 07:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mark W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great he would like to work things out with you. But what do you want? If you are having second thoughts about taking him back then maybe you don't really want to get back together right now, or maybe even ever. If you don't feel whole heartedly sure that you want to get back together and work things out, you may have some more soul searching to do.
2007-01-20 07:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by ??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you're marriage has been broken by the other man. "Other options???" This tells me you are over the marriage. Don't fool yourself. He'll definitely be resentful once you get back together. Let him go and be single for a while. At this point it would be unhealthy to go back.
2007-01-20 07:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by mia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my wife left me and was with another man..from her families lies...I moved away and got together with another woman
...But I forgave my wife and gave her another chance...and that was almost 6 yrs ago...I thought she needed a 2nd chance...
Try dating your husband for a while...like you used to...
see if that love and desire is still there...and after say 3-6 months
see if you want to move back in together...
2007-01-20 07:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did u marry him in "sickness & health, till death do u part", or did u marry him like these famous people do, just for something to do? If u have tried 2 work things out and no chemistry or love left, then leave, if u still love him and feel that things can be worked out then stay.
2007-01-20 07:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by ceces2261 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...........do you love him?
Do you have children?
Why did you split up?
If you don't get back together, how will you fell when he finds someone else?
This is not an easy questions to answer. There are more questions to ask yourself before anyone else could suggest an answer. Before you take the advice of strangers here, you need to ask yourself some questions..........
Good luck with whatever you decide
2007-01-20 07:16:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋