He had his daughter at age 41 after being told he would never have kids and she doesn't even want him talking to another female. He doesn't know how to deal with her.
2007-01-20 07:03:33 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's jealous because he's spending time with you instead of her. If you are in the picture and want her to get over it, you need to include her. Take her somewhere she really wants to go (amusement park?) with all three of you. Don't try to take your man's attention while you are out with her. Let her have it all. From him and you. Don't make her feel like she is competing with you.
Go out to places she likes to go. Watch a Disney movie. Do things with her that you know she will have a good time at, and use this time to get to know her.
Then she will associate being around you with having a good time.
2007-01-20 07:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say your age, but I'm guessing you are around 30. If you don't want to take the time to get to know this child & have her trust you, then I think this man is wise not to commit to you. You will never be her mother, but if you can't figure out how to be her friend first, then becoming her step-mother would only make things worse for you & everyone else. This child has been hurt & you should consider taking some parenting classes to learn how to deal with her. I'm betting that her own mother is not helping the situation. If there is no mother in her life, then she is going to stick to dad like glue because he is all that she has left to cling to. If you don't want to learn new tricks, then you have no business even trying to marry this man. That child should come first before anything. Art therapy & counseling would help all of you to start on a new path & break away from what has already been set in stone. You will need a new foundation & it will take time, patience, & money to get it done. You will be glad that you did.
2007-01-20 07:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell to the naaw! what's this 31 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous guy a pedophile? #a million your daughter continues to be a minor and has her finished existence prior to her why might want to you want her to ruin it by technique of letting her date a grown guy who has a grown guy needs and that i'm exceptionally effective a grown guy's sexual urge for food. I actually have a quickly to be 15 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous and God help the Grown guy who ever tries to seek suggestion from her. also your daughter is naive and this guy will be on a baby like mentality yet he continues to be older than her and able to administration her. tell this creep to stay remote from her or you'll call the police officials and exhibit screen her like a protect computer screen contraptions a criminal in penal complex. do not enable her out of your sight.
2016-12-02 19:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you’ve got a big problem because if comes to choosing between you and his daughter, his daughter will likely win. Don’t put him in that position. My only suggestion is have daughter see a therapist in the hopes that she can overcome this jealousy issue, which she probably can given enough time and guidance.
2007-01-20 07:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The daughter obviously does not want a mother figure, and she will always be like that unless she gets help. Take her to a therapist who can talk to her and where she can vent her frustrations and they can help her realize that a female figure in the family is not bad at all
2007-01-20 07:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by chris_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is allowing a six year old to run his life, you should move on.
It is normal for a female child at that age to want to "take over" the wife role (Oedipus complex, see Sigmund Freud).
He need to start acting like a parent, not someone walking on eggshells.
2007-01-20 07:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to take her to a child councillor and deal with her now or it will get worse. She has to learn and differentiate between the love daddy has for her and the fact that daddy has other "friends" in his life. You cannot and should not tip-toe around your children life they are fragile china dolls. The sooner they learn how the real world works, the better they will be prepared for life, we do not need more spoilt immature brats in this world.
2007-01-20 07:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find a man who would live his life for his own happiness and not the whims of a 6 yr old child. However, he should take the child's best interests and health into consideration.
2007-01-20 07:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All three of you need to go to a group therapy session. The child may think that the dad will get back with the mom. Let her know you are not taking him away but simply sharing his life with him and her. She needs to realize that you are not a big problem.
2007-01-20 07:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by samantha s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with him. If you do you could be responsible for permanently damaging the psyche of his child. That is much more important than any casual adult relationship that may or may not develop between you and the father. There are other men out there.
2007-01-20 07:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋