My fiance informed me that he was addicted to pornography when we were getting to know one another. Now we have been together for 3 years and I have been suspicious of his activity on the internet, he continued to say that he was not doing anything. I found out otherwise recently and confronted him. He said he is not bored (which he stated also while getting to know him) that he "get's bored easily." So do "all" men "just look at pornography just to"look" or should I be concerned? He has told other little white lies as well. However, he is attentive, consistent and I do not want to throw in the towel, but should I trust him enough to marry him?
2007-01-20 06:58:59 · 13 answers · asked by poopsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be worried, I would hold off on the wedding and ask him to get help with his porno addiction.
L.
2007-01-23 07:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a real problem with pornography myself. My ex enjoyed looking at other women and I told him it was out of the question if he was going to be with me. He claimed it was just appreciating beauty, B.S.! Go to a museum then! My current guy feels the same way I do. If you're in a relationship, especially a serious one, you are NOT to look at other women/men. This also includes naked ones. I would let him know exactly where you stand on the issue and decide from there.
2007-01-20 15:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by cleverforever_05 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are "visual" so it makes sense that men like to look at naked women on the internet or in person. It doesn't mean he will cheat or anything. It isn't the same as chatting with some chick. Just jacking off to porn is healthy and is also good for a man's prostate.
2007-01-20 15:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mark W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going thru the same thing, and trust me it is only going to get worse! He will continue to lie to you and look at porn behind your back. I have been dealing with this for almost 4 years and it started off just as you said, he told me he was addicted to porn so I thought, ok he just watches occasionally. But NO he dedicates every free minute he gets to his porn, on tv and the internet and now it is so bad that we rarely even have sex becuase he can satisfy himself with his porn... Try talking to him and fixing the problem before you consider marriage if its something you can't deal with.
2007-01-20 15:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by passionatepclover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't anything wrong with porn - unless it's child porn. all guys will look at it, and quite a few girls do as well. if he get's horney over it, and needs you for relief - is that a bad deal?
do you watch soap operas? read romance novels? it's the same thing. it's fantasy. it would be different if he went to strip clubs every night, or worse, hookers.
if you trust him otherwise, go ahead and marry him. if your both open, maybe you can learn what he likes and perform those things for him. on the other hand, it may involve animals, whips, etc - and you might not be into that. it's up to you, and it really depends on how much you love him.
2007-01-20 15:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by mike s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend of 14 also has a secret thing for por. Not so secret anymore.... I busted him with a collection, almost all BJ flicks.
Needless to say... this has been going on secretly for 4-5 yrs and we no longer have sex. He informed me he wanted to have sex with other girls last yr but talked me into not leaving.
So here I am planning to move out. He swore not to download anymore but the trust is DEAD DEAD DEAD.
Men who are into porn have a lack of creativity. Sex is too much work. Porn is easy and stupid, thoughtless. And another way of psychologically cheating. They want to have sex with other girls and that is their only way to and keep you.
I say get rid of him or suffer the long slow death of your love and youth further in the future.
2007-01-20 15:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by mia b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All men like pulchritude... period. End of story. What is wrong with porn, are you averse to erotica?
Maybe you have a different sex interest or sex drive than your fiance... if so you two aren't a good match.
2007-01-20 15:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can get through this with the help of God, counselling, and a good support system.
2007-01-21 17:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by lovenotlost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont u consult a psycologist ???? marriage is an important part of life be careful friend & good luck
2007-01-20 15:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by gelareh p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! Break up and find yourself a nice guy who doesn't "get bored so easily".
2007-01-20 21:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by KB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋