Ok, we've been together over 2 years. He's been divorced...he cheated on me early in our relationship. I want to get married...he's not ready. What do I do? I love him but sometimes I wonder if he'll do me wrong again.
2007-01-20 06:58:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girlfreind wake up and smell the coffee. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-01-20 07:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by octrucker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If marriage is really important to you, you might as well move on. I think the odds of him cheating again are good. You say he cheated on you early in the relationship so I wonder if in his mind he just wasn't ready to commit at that time- but he's still not ready after two years?! I don't know what this guys good qualities are but he sounds self centered, so you have to decide if it's worth it.
2007-01-20 15:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheated on YOU before chances are he will again, and again...etc
If he's not ready to wed but you are I'd be looking for a man that wanted to settle down too. 2 years is a long time to wait on someone to make a commitment.
2007-01-20 15:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, and you cannot live your life in fear, or conduct your relationship without trust. In life there are no guarantees. and that is that. If your partner is not ready to commit, you may wait all you want, and it will lead nowhere.
make sure you have some sort of time frame, take a deep long calculated look at him as a future partner, make sure you don't see what you want to see. You cannot make anyone marry you if they do not want to, so do not set yourself up for disappointment and make sure your life is not on indefinite hold.
2007-01-20 15:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a solid relationship without trust and honesty. Does he ever want to get married? Two years tells me he isn't in a hurry. I would consider a break from each other. You need to know that you can trust him. He needs to know that you are serious. If you are afraid that he will "cheat" on you, it is definitely a possibility. As the old saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words"
2007-01-20 15:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by xraytls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater - but that's besides the point. If you even have to wonder whether or not he'll "do you wrong again", then it's NOT a good match. You shouldn't marry someone you don't completely trust with your whole heart.
2007-01-20 15:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on you once ,95% chances he's gonna do it again when he gets an opportunity to.if you wanna still go ahead and marry this guy, i think you're gonna be in more trouble because as of today you can walk out on him. marriage is a whole different ball game and then when you''l have kids-it will be far more difficult to leave that creature of the amazon. he's not worth it-to answer your question.
2007-01-20 15:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not worth the wait. There is a good chance that he has already cheated again. He's just not that into you. If he was, he would not hesitate. You can do better. Cut your losses and move on to someone who deserves you and will not do you wrong.
2007-01-20 15:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooooo! He's not worth the time it took to ask the question. If you have to ask, it's a pretty sure bet you already know the answer. Don't just settle- you are wonderful and worthy of real love. Good luck & God bless.
2007-01-20 21:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by skayrkroh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has a history of cheating, he'll probably cheat again. if he's not ready, and he already cheated, it might be ready to move on. your ready, he's not, he still want's to play. he might still be playing right now.
2007-01-20 15:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋