ok. here is the situation. i used to be a wanker( no, really) i think from the age of 13-14 i had this HABIT of jacking off once or twice a day, it continued untill i was 26. i finally stopped in 2001. and my life has changed for the better eversince. right now i am so full of life that when i look back at those dark times, i feel i have done so much injustice to my self.
ANYWAYS, now i have met a really nice girl and i want to marry her. BUT, i am afraid that after marriage, i will have to have regular sex with her, and it reminds of the days long ago. i donot want to be miserable and weak like before, but i really want to marry this girl.
SO, ALL THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED, DOES HAVING REGULAR SEX WITH YOUR WIFE MAKE YOU WEAK AND MISERABLE, OR AM I JUST BEING PARANOID BECAUSE OF MY PAST EXPERIENCE.
2007-01-20 06:40:53 · 24 answers · asked by allen g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get married - you'll never have to have sex again.
2007-01-20 06:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chrisssy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of strict upbringing you had but knocking one out once or twice a day is no big deal. You need to get to the bottom of whatever guilt complex you have about masturbation as it is a perfectly normal and healthy thing. Let your fears and anxieties go, and if this person you have met really is the one then go for it without fear or prejudice towards yourself and enjoy a long and happy life together. Just remember marriage, like success, is a journey not a destination, and it is only by continuing to work as a team that your marriage will work. I once saw an old guy being interviewed after 60 odd years of marriage, and when asked the secret he replied "I guess we just never fell out of love with each other at the same time!"
Stop worrying, and the best of British luck to you both!
2007-01-20 06:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Buckaroo Banzai 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PARANOID!
Those were not "dark times" in your youth. It was perfectly natural. there's an old limerick that goes: "When I was at the age of ten, I used to jack off every now and then but now that I'm old and gray, I only jack off once a day."
This holds true. I'm 50 and I still haven't stopped all together. Even when I was married I didn't stop, in fact it was kind of fun when she joined in. Don't put yourself down cause you're just a normal as everyone else.
Congrats on your marriage and have fun, it's the best part of life.
2007-01-20 07:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really Allen, i can't see where you are coming from. It is normal for boys and young men to masturbate....in fact it is normal for any man of whatever age. If he has a regular sex life with a woman he might not want to, but that is up to him!
I hope you don't marry this poor girl and then withhold sex from her. Sex is a normal part of a healthy marriage.
Maybe you both need to talk to a counsellor before you get married.
2007-01-20 08:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro keep doing what your doing. There's nothing wrong with that. If you think about it, masterbation calms the nerves down. It releases stress and endorphines in your system. After a good hearty masterbation it refreshes the blood stream in your penis. Its all good!!! If you stop using it it will shrivle up and die on you.
Also if you get married, believe me you wont be getting it as much as you think. You will get it when they want to give it. Also it doesn't make you weak.
All the best bro.
2007-01-21 01:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question makes no sense, Married men become wankers coz the sex dries up when they attatch the ball and chain. I've not been allowed my rashons for 2 weeks. IF YOU DON'T WANT SEX, THEN GET MARRIED.
2007-01-21 08:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...firstly, your attitude to masturbation is bizarre!!!
It is natural...it is not age related...and it is sex with the person I love.
Sex with the woman you love is a lot better...I mean a looooooooottt better, but it doesn't mean that you past was not right. In fact..what if your wife is your fantasy as well as your reality???...Ever think of that????
Chill my friend. In the words of the great John Lennon...All You Need Is Love
2007-01-20 06:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were in the world did you get the notion that sex makes a man weak???? From a PE coach or something?
2007-01-20 06:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best contraceptive devicein the world is a wedding ring! Join the poor band of tossers who married?
2007-01-20 07:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by D S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have issues not associated with "wanking" (that is a natural event) or with anticipated sex (also a natural event). See someone BEFORE you get married to resolve the underlining issues.
good luck!
2007-01-20 07:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having regular sex is great and will not make you weak but you will be miserable if you do not.
2007-01-20 06:48:21 · answer #11 · answered by hughdobbs1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋