Is it so much insecurity as it is not wanting to be disrespected on that close and intense of a level.
as for me , i like to put on a very fake face for the public because if they treat me like I am a stupid person or a piece of shite, it is not that big of a deal because I know that they dont really know me so who cares? but if i am acting truely myself (or atleast who I feel I am alone) then it would be serious offense to me if they treated me that way in true person.
Also I think that "shyness" has a lot to do as well, not wanting to let people see the "simple you" and anything you would be embarrased for the general public to know about you. I also think that people not only like to put on a false front many times for public but they try to put a little flair into it as well, seem " cool" or "sexy" or smarter than they really are. and maybe this is why talk forums are so popular because people are able to communicate ideas and such without "having to dress up."
2007-01-20 06:27:34 · 14 answers · asked by jack j 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
They probably as you said don't want to be hurt.
2007-01-20 06:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say, I think people want to hide who they are so they are not open to disrespect or insults. I like to tell myself I don't put on an act, but sometimes I can be so shy when I am getting to know people, but deep down I'm really extroverted so what does that tell me about me?
I'd say I don't like to put the real me out there until I'm secure enough with someone and I know they won't judge me or make fun of who I really am.
2007-01-20 06:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are the sort of person i used to be when i was younger,then yes it is because they simply don't want to be hurt by or judged by anyone until they're sure that's not going to happen. Whereas now i'm older,i've realised that you're better off just being you. At least then you find out who your real freinds are.
2007-01-20 10:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by SHAKIRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to live like that too "without having to dress up" then when you shine its really you
I really prefer face to face cuz I know I'm really good and am even better in person
anyone being fake is hiding something from society and from themselves, its sooooooooooooo much better to deal with and accept and get past whatever is.
If somebody is your friend and is kind, why would they treat that bad way?
2007-01-20 06:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because we are too scared to face what might be the wrong reaction - hence why i left it a long time to tell my parents but im glad i did in the end, they already knew anyway cos they could tell - by mannerisms
2007-01-21 02:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by liam.cornes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For gays it is generally the fact that they know too many people around will be homophobic towards them so they try and be something they are not.
2007-01-21 19:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it think you answered you question when you talked about how you put on a front when you go out in public.
people hide who they really are because they have a fear of rejection.
2007-01-20 07:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and act as you.
Respect yourself everybody will respects you.
The cheat rope is too short.
2007-01-20 06:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Sprite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all just want to be accepted by other people so we mold ourselves to be what we think they expect us to be.
2007-01-20 06:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people fear what their family and friends will think of them and dont want to loose anyone special because they are gay, bi, lesbian.
2007-01-20 06:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋