Personally I don't feel that way, I think there are more important things to marriage than sex, but just curious as to what you all think.
2007-01-20 05:57:07 · 14 answers · asked by Bryan M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get me wrong, I think sex is important in a marriage, it just seems that we see people putting too much importance on sex and not enough about the relationship and getting to know each other.
2007-01-20 11:43:54 · update #1
It is important and depending on the couple and there sex drive. It is supposed to bring couples close because it is the most beautiful and intimate thing couples can share with each other. Without the other elements of a marriage that builds there strong foundation from the beginning such as love, good communication, honesty, trust, loyalty, good values, morals, compassion, etc.....(you get the picture).....It would be just sex and meaningless which that's sad.......Maybe it is just me but, I feel married couples should always be making love and not just refer it to having sex because to me it sounds too demeaning. I maybe a big romantic but that's just my view of looking at sex in a marriage verses love making........PS It is a very fun and good way to relieve stress's too........
2007-01-20 06:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are other aspects in marriage that are important but one is no more important than the other.You need to have emotional intimacy,spiritual intimacy and physical intimacy.It would be very hard for any marriage to survive when one of those aspects are missing.People who are physically unable to have physical intimacy have to work extremely hard on the emotional and spiritual parts of their relationship.The same goes for couples who have nothing but physical intimacy ,their relationship will be strain as well because they did not take the time to develop any other bond.We all know the body gets old and wears out, so what do you do after that if the physical was the only bond a couple had.I guess you can say they put their eggs in one basket.So i would say it is just as important as anything else that would make up a happy marriage.
2007-01-20 14:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by zachary b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. It isn't the most important thing in a marriage. Communication is the most important part of any relationship and without that you don't have much of anything else. But with all relationships, this needs to be discussed before marriage.
2007-01-20 14:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~Carolina Beach Girl~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People that think that sex is the most important reason for being married have no clue what marriega is about in the first place.Sex is a nice benefit but by no means the most important.What would you do if your spouse became a criple(oh let me guess you go cheat right)and cheating is so very wrong.That is the lowest thing you can do.Marriage is all about love,honesty,respect,communication,companionship ect..That is what marriage is about not sex.
2007-01-20 15:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is one of the most important things- when a man and a women are intimate there is a certain special bond that they have with eachother that validates their love for one another. If you look it up- I have heard from a doctor on Oprah that when having sex, we release certain 'somethings' not sure of the term, but we release them and that make us bond. So to have that bond in a marriage is important- therefore sex is important.
2007-01-20 14:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbooger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is the most important thing. But, I do believe that it is one of those important things that needs to be discussed before marriage(like money, children, where to live, does it matter if one person is a stay at home what ever, going to school, etc...).
2007-01-20 14:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is very important in a marriage...but in not the main thing..
communication is 1st....I love talking with the wife...just being with...her... sharing life together each and every day....
2007-01-20 14:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that goes:
When sex is great, it's only 10% of a relationship.
When the sex is bad, it's 99% of the relationship.
Sex and more importantly intimacy between married partners is part and parcel of the deal and goes into the quality of the companionship as a whole. Granted, the sexual drive may decline and very with the years, but if it's completely absent, there is always a chance that one partner is unsatisfied and might go looking elsewhere for what they are missing.
2007-01-20 14:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Sexual intimacy is the culmination of the friendship, trust and respect a couple has for each other. That's why it is considered the most important thing....because it represents the solidarity of the union.
2007-01-20 14:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bryan....
Can you name one other thing that changes based on marital status other than sex? Before marriage you're not "suppose" to have sex". After marriage you're only allowed to have sex with your spouse.
Think about it, at its core, marriage is centered all about sex.
Marriage it the legitimizer of sex and marriage is the container of sex. Is there any word that follows the term "premarital" other than sex? Why not? There's no premarital communication, there is no premarital trust, there is only premarital sex.
After marriage you can talk to someone other than your spouse, you can have a meal with someone other than your spouse, heck you can hang out naked at a nudist camp with someone other than your spouse... the only thing that is restricted by marriage is your sex partner.
So that is why sex it the most important thing about marriage.... because it flat out is.
p.s. daydreamer has a very good answer.
2007-01-20 14:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋