We used to hang out all the time, but now they always do stuff and I don't because I am doing schoolwork or something. I want so badly to hang out with them, but it never seems to work out. Now a girl who I thought was one of my best friends never really talks to me any more or anything. She doesn't seem interested in me anymore and I don't want to give up our friendship, but I dont want to ask her about it either because it might come across as clingy. I used to be happy, but then days like today come along and I wonder why I am living...please help me.
2007-01-20 05:56:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok, well i have been in the same problem since i started Middle School, my friend and i use to be really good friends until she decited that i wasn't good enough for her anymore....All she did was use me, but now she hangs out with the wrong crowd, but all i have to say is don't worry about what she does when she leaves you out, go with the friends that you normally don't see, or just make some new friends, thats what i did and it works greatly. My life now as an 8th grader is really good with the friends i have now, and in High School next year i will have even more friends then i did before, just hang in there!
2007-01-20 06:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by basketballcenter50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of those feelings pass though, and you'll have new friends and you'll eventually get past the issues you're dealing with now. It doesn't really seem as thought that will ever be the case when you're depressed, and that it will go on forever, but it's over when you least expect it. Whoever it was that you thought was your friend, perhaps it was a relationship where you were putting more into it than she was and now that you're incapable of giving her what she wants she doesn't necessarily know what to do now. A lot of friendships are like that, but you may have to give up the friendship just to find out how true of a friend she really is. If you feel as though you're being clingy then you are always being perceived as such. Clingy isn't about what is or isn't, but about perception. Give her that space and find out what it is you truly want out of a friendship and get back in touch with who you really are instead of worrying about everyone else.
2007-01-20 14:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get that way all the time i live alone and work full time so really don't have much of a life and you invest all your time on certain friendships had an argument with someone i thought was a true friend still hasn't come around cause of her stubborness and beginning to think this friendship was a waste of time i know its not but just feels like ya builded up an awesome friendship they disappear for awhile. Don't give up talk to her about it. Your life is very worth living everyone is special in they own way. i feel that way now and then but people do depend on me and i am sure they do you hang in there meet new friends for the time beign.
2007-01-20 14:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. My awesome roommates and I had a fight about something STUPID some time ago and things haven't been the same since. I feel like I've invested so much time into our friendships and now it's all for nothing. Still, one of my roommates apparently felt the same way and kept calling me. I didn't think she was being clingy given what happened. You have to make that extra effort to restore the friendship to what it was. However, when she called me, I made the effort to return calls, invite her places, etc.
Therefore, if you're making the initial effort, make sure she responds. If you've tried, once, twice, three times and nothing seems to work, just find better friends and be glad for the time that you were friends. Life is about changes, don't be afraid of them and enjoy the ride :)
2007-01-20 14:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by abby j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends comes and go. If they dont want to accept you move on. Live your life. If u have to make sacrifices then do so. people come into your life in and out of season, but its up to u to find out the people that are your true friends and people that are only there just for a little while. things will get better although it might seem worse, but things sometimes get worse before they get better.
2007-01-20 15:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by jlmccln87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how u feel my story is a bit different, but my problem was i was too cliingy, u dont seem to be and i think uve gotta let her know how u feel, i always find thats a good way but dont tell someone to much and talk like your feeling sorry for yourself or the person will not be interested. Dont think this person doesnt care cause im sure they do its just when u actually dont see someone that often anymore it looks like u dont care but deep down u do! You dont seem to have had a big fall out and i think you should really sit down and talk before its too late and u get even unhappier. u have nothing to lose trust me!
2007-01-20 14:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyGal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i experience something like that before...and i learned one thing from that experience..
if you don't do anything about your friendship the gap between you will be bigger..until you will realize your no longer friends the way you used to be...
but if you do something as soon as possible to fill that gap you have a lot of chances to be friends again the way you used to be..
piece of advice..if you don't want to lose your friend that you treasure most do something...
2007-01-20 14:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by yui 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋