What do I do?

Question

I have been in a relationship for about a year now. Recently she came to me saying she had trust issues. Then she started hiding her phone, not letting me see emails, being suspicious. Now she has been away not really talking to me except to say she is moving out. I really love her but she tells me I dont know the meaning of love since I have been married before. What should I do? Should I keep in touch with her or let her go and find someone else?

I also forgot to add that we were engaged.

Answer 1

It smells like cheating..Well maybe she realized your relationship isn't going anywhere or maybe she found someone else and wants to break it off before you both get hurt. If shes hiding her phone and email it shows shes afraid you might find out something(Like another guy)When you say, shes moving out you mean shes living with you and leaving or moving on to something else that ain't u? Either way shes making it loud and clear sorry to say, that she doesn´t want to be with you anymore. If you really love her and think she´s worth keeping, discuss this issue, but if you see shes not a keeper, move on. Sometimes you have to follow your head, not your heart to make wise decisions.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

It depends on the kind of relationship you and your partner had. What I mean, if it was a sexual relationship first or if you were non trusting, suspicious, and or too controlling of her in your relationship as when you were married. More likely, she has met someone that she is more attracted to than she is to you. Age may have something to do with her not being communicative. No communication, no relationship. Move own to your healing stage and be more careful with the next relationship. Anyway, as it goes with "Why does the caged bird sing"
Open the door to that cage and let it fly freely and if the bird comes back to the open cage she loves you, if not, she never did.

Answer 3

I think the trust issues she is having is she cant trust herself. I think if she is acting the way she is, is because she is doing something behind your back. The fact that you was married before has or doesn't make any sense for her to be acting the way she is. I think you should let her go and the right one will come your way. people that are divorce today doesnt mean and dont know what love is just that it wasnt meant to be. If anything u should be the one to have trust issues with her. good luck.

Answer 4

TO HAVE BEEN MARRIED BEFORE HAS NOTHING TO DO ABOUT KNOWING OR NOT KNOWING THE MEANING OF LOVE. SHE IS WRONG BY SAYING SO.

YOU SHOULD SIT AND TALK TO HER. CLEAR THE WATERS. WHY WOULD SHE HAVE TRUST ISSUES? HAVE SOME ONE TOLD HER SOMETHING NEGATIVE ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH HER? MAYBE SOME ONE DID.

HIDING HER PHONE, EMAILS AND ACTING SUSPICIOUS SURE SOUNDS LIKE SHE IS DOING SOMETHING SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU TO KNOW.

IS BEST TO TALK TO HER. AND LET HER KNOW YOUR EMOTIONS. IF SHE CAN NOT EXPLAIN TO YOU THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO THINK ABOUT MOVING ON.

YOU CAN NOT HAVE A WOMAN THAT WILL NOT TRUST YOU OR WERE YOU CAN NOT TRUST HER. TRUST & COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. IF SHE CAN NOT UNDERSTAND THIS THEN SHE IS THE ONE THAT WILL LOOSE.

Answer 5

I think if you really love her you should attempt to talk to her about this issue. Tell her everything you just wrote out to us and explain to her that you don't want to be pushed away.
But then you also need to explain that trust is a huge issue in a relationship and if she wants to be in a relationship with you she will try to fix the problem. Depending on how she repsonds will answer your question on if you should leave or not. Do not force a relationship if she doesn't want one. Respect yourself enough to walk away if you are not being treated like you deserve! GOOD LOCK!

Answer 6

Why do you want her? She already has issues with the fact that you've been married before and she's so horrified that you'll hurt her she's preemptive, shutting down the relationship. She obviously isn't ready to be with someone with any sort of past, which is the overwhelming majority of us. Get on with your life and find someone else to get into.

Answer 7

I understand that you really love her and if you think this is a love that is worth saving tell her that u will help her past her trust issues. I f not then find someone who can love you as much as you love them if that's possible at all.

Answer 8

It seems that she has basically chosen for you. I know it is hard to let go, but if she is moving out, then she is moving on. So, you need to come to grips with it, and move on. It does not mean you do not still love her, and it does not mean you can bounce right back. Because it will take time.

Answer 9

let her go if u must. It's better to live a life of happiness rather than asking yourself why are u in the relationship in the first place. follow your heart. ask her if she wants to leave the relationship. question her motives.in a relationship there shouldn't be nothing to hide.

Answer 10

If after a year you are questioning whether you want to be with her or not, it is probably not meant to be. But only you know how you feel. Try spending more time alone or with your guy friends and focus on what you enjoy and want in life, if you really miss her, it will be very clear.