can you outgrow love?

Question

i just opened one of my kitchen drawers for some chocolare...and there was a kitkat and a twix. about 5 years ago i would have got for the kitkat, no doubt!. but now it doesnt appeal me. and started to remember how back them i would have one atleast once a day, and how happy they would make me feel. and that lead me to think.....can the same happen with love?

Answer 1

of course it can. many people think once the ring is on the finger they can relax. marriage is tough. its rough. its filled with passion - angry as well as loving.
you have to work at marriage, you have to remember to do the little things that make your mate happy.
i think if people put as much effort into marriage as they did into trying to find their mate - a lot more marriages would last forever.
its the hardest job there is, but boy the rewards are grand!
romance isn't always about flowers, and candlelit dinners. its about every day things - preparing a decent dinner, helping with housework, about the fact that when he gets his coffee he brings you one. when you go shopping you bring him home a treat of some kind. when one of you is in the bathroom sick with the flu and throwing up, the other one is getting a warm facecloth ready for you, bringing you gingerale to help settle your tummy. its about the boring, every day routine crap that piles up and dealing with it together.
if you can do all that together and still snuggle under the blankies at night and laugh at your troubles then you've got it good.
so........what kind of chocolate bar are you into now? lol

Answer 2

Yes, I think that in marriage or love if the people don't grow together the relationship can sour quickly. Example: If you both fell in love in your 20's and partied all night then one of you grows up and you start a family together and your husband still acts like the 20 yr old party boy and you want to focus on settling down with family and kids there is gonna bebig problems I think from my own experiance that I seem to change how I look at things about every 3-5yrs. If a couple aren't on the same page, you can find yourself looking for someone or something that is better suited for YOUR current mental state.

Answer 3

Well, it is the love that changed over time - your love for the kit kat diminished due to over exposure or maturing tastebuds or because you found something better. That does happen in our relationships too. That is why it is often best to wait to get married until we settle down into the person we are mostly likely to be through our lives. I mean our teens and most of our 20s are so changeable as we learn and discover new things and as we refine our own ideas of what we like and what we need in our lives to be happy. Once we get nearer to 30 we start to stablilize and be more consistent in our likes and needs, then this phenomenon slows down with relationships - but we will continue to out grow friends, fads and ways of being throughout our entire lives.

Peace!

Answer 4

Outgrowing something implies it's only suitable for a particular age or maturity level. You didn't outgrow chocolate, your desire for it simply changed. Perhaps you are more health conscious, perhaps it filled a void in you at one time that is no longer there, or perhaps you just grew tired of the same thing over and over.

I don't think we outgrow love, but we may grow or change in ways that cause us to lose love for our partner. We may find one day that we are vastly different people and the romance that was once there, is gone. The love wasn't "outgrown" so to speak, but changed or disappeared due to our or our partner's changing and growing.

Answer 5

Yes Yes Yes

Answer 6

I think that you can. You can stay enjoy a person, and love them for who they are. But that doesn't mean that your in love with them. People change, we either grow together as a couple or sadly we start to grow apart. As you know wanting something different, or seeing themselves somewhere else. I think you have to ask yourself a few things tho. What drew you to that person in the start? Do they still? Do you see yourself with them? And most of all can you be happy with that person. I know its hard to be with someone, and then just feel something change. But its wrong to stay in a relationship just to stay in it. I hope that things work out for you. And you find what your looking for.

Answer 7

Yes, it happens. Couples outgrow each other often, sad but true. It happens when you're not going in the same direction or want the same things in life anymore... you become bored, miserable, a feeling of loneliness.

Answer 8

Yes, I totally agree! Sometimes love can be boring. When you want it, you can never find it. When you dont want it, that is when it finds you. Love is a very strange thing. Kinda like Catch 22. Make sense or am I saying the same thing you are?

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Answer 9

Definitley. As you grow older you change in many many different ways. you grow out of all sort of things. for example, clothes, friendships, the way you act, talk, dress and even like you said the things you eat. so the chances of you growing out of love are pretty good....especially because the other person is changing and growing too. Its really kind of sad if you think about it.

Answer 10

You can outgrow a *thing* that you love, but you cannot outgrow your need for love itself. In a relationship, it is possible to "outgrow" the person you love if you are growing personally and spiritually, and the other person is not... it is common for lovers to "grow apart," which sometimes means they a growing in different directions, other times meaning that they are growing at significantly different rates.