2007-01-20 05:28:05 · 38 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on whether there was respect in the marriage and what your value system is. For me, divorce was inconceivable and I literally prayed that my ex would get a clue until she had just done too much...to me, family, and what we "used" to stand for. She was literally a ghost of the wonderful woman I had fallen for--and even then it wasn't easy for me to file. So...make a gut check, forget about all the stories people tell you, pray, and if you walk away...do so with no regrets and a forgiving heart because bitterness aids neither one of you. If you stay...ensure that the two of you find counseling, an anchor (faith, belief system, and hopefully family), and common love (commitment to each other,joyful reconcilliation based on the common goal of the "we" instead of the "me", and daily renewal). Divorce is never easy for people who understand what marriage truly means...one of the most serious committments that we take that is often given the lightest discernment. God bless.
2007-01-20 06:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by David L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 00:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer over reacting.. whether he has economic duty for his young babies, it extremely is going to stay merely that. of course the ex spouse could probably desire to have him returned yet talk over with him frankly and tell him which you do no longer like it. Honesty is the terrific coverage. If he extremely cares for you, he does no longer desire to wreck you by skill of talking together with his ex spouse different than economic concerns. Do you have an ex husband too? in case you do, ask him how he could experience in case you're doing the comparable element?
2016-11-25 22:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married for 10 years , then divorced for 17 years. All the issues have passed over the years as we aged and grew up. I think we could get back together at this time.
2007-01-20 06:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by calitoots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - I can now, four years later, realize that I do not need to pay so much attention to all his cheating and never-there attitude. He never actually realized that it was me who left, otherwise he would have killed me for his hurt ego. I took nothing, instead he took all that I had with me, so I re-started from zero. Now, if circumstances will be such as I have a chance to get back together, I would do that only to ruin him financially. But that's mz personal thing, I do not advise anyone to do the same.
2007-01-20 05:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by 20082008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not legally divorced yet, but there is no way I would get back with my ex. Just too many negative feelings there. Not sure I could forgive and forget all the things we have went thru.
2007-01-20 05:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by balooney2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my case there was no good reason for my divorce other than we were stupid. We both thought that was what we wanted. We are back together now working things out and maybe we will get married again some day. I guess i am unusual or maybe stupid for trying. I don't know if you love something set it free if it comes back it's meant to be yours.
2007-01-20 05:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by like2beme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart still says YES!!! I see him maybe three times a month, for visitation with our children, and at that very moment I want to tell him that I forgive him and I just want our Family back together. Then reality sets in and I know that could never be, how sad....
2007-01-20 10:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the very early months of the divorce, it crossed my mind, and then all it took was for him to say something that reminded me of one of the many reasons why I wanted the divorce to begin with. After 6 months, the thought no longer entered my mind. He is a wonderful guy and will be perfect for someone...else.
2007-01-20 05:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Way! He was a drunk and emotionally abusive!
Sure there were good times but they were way too far apart and No Man or Woman is worth being with that hurts you!
It's much better to be alone than be in a bad relationship!
2007-01-20 05:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sherri R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋