After seeing so many people around me get excited to get married, then go through a hell of a marriage and get divorced, only to turn around and start looking to get married again, I dont understand what the draw to marriage is. Why is everyone in such a rush to "tie the knot"?
2007-01-20 05:14:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Beats the hell out of me. I see it happen all the time. I guess some people don't like to be alone. I honestly don't think I could live with anyone. I love my independence.
2007-01-20 06:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that for many people who are mature about what marriage is really about (more than just a wedding, or the idea of "happily ever after"), marriage can be a very fulfilling thing. It strikes me as odd, too, that so many single people I know, when referring to marriage or married people, unwittingly, but literally use expressions like "happy ending" or "ending up" (not in a bad, but in a wistful way). It as if these people are looking at the "answer", and not a different way to go through life, complete with its ups and downs, companionship and loneliness. I think they are in for a big surprise, as we see from the situation you mentioned. Perhaps there should be less hype about weddings, and more hype about sharing a life (as in reality) with someone. And that sickness and health, richness and poorness, etc. (to use traditional descriptions of life-long commitment) are part of reality whether married or not. Life is life. Marriage is not just a happy ending, but really can be a fulfilling way to go through life, if you accept it as part of life, as part of reality and not some fulfillment of an immature fantasy, and respect that your spouse is an individual and not just a function of your own perfect idea of something. I appreciate your thoughts.
2007-01-20 13:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Q.Latifah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That may be the majority, but I have been married for 11 years and I still find him exciting. There is a positive in this sometimes.
2007-01-20 13:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am for ONE not into any rush into geting married...this is funny cause 5 min ago my mom's fiance's sister just ask me that same question "when are you geting married?"...what pissed me off tho is that i'm religious and she had the balls to tell me that it's in my relgious duties which is totally not true! i'll get married only nad only if I want to! no one cna force me..my friend knew her hubby for 3 months before they got married, well guess what? 2 years later they got divorced cause my friend cheated and when her huby found out he cheated back!
2007-01-20 14:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an obligation for some people to seek for the most compatible match; rather than act like animals and have multiple sexual partners. I see nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-20 13:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is some type of overall society sickness....which I also have. People think of marriage as a safe ending to a nice fairy-tale, but we all know that marriage is often not an answer at all but a living hell. Bless you.
2007-01-20 13:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by X me Out 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Self-worth.
2007-01-20 13:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by kveldulf_gondlir 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do people really want to get married? If so, why are so many people single?
2007-01-20 13:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by james w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have asked myself this question and I really don't know
2007-01-20 13:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by loot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good question and i dont know either.
2007-01-20 13:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by trans am ws-6 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋