No jokes here please, they will be reported as abuse. Anyway, anyone have ideas as to how I may get my wife interested in swinging? I make little jokes about it from time to time, but am apprehensive about carrying it further.
2007-01-20 04:52:24 · 12 answers · asked by j f 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The easiest way to do it would be to find a couple that swings that has a very good looking counterpart for her to play with - or someone she can be very comfortable with. She might be more receptive if she meets another who inspires her to participate - but then you must be careful that she doesn't get carried away.
I have discussed it with my husband - I would be interested, but he would not. That's cool - I don't want him to think that I am not satisfied with him or pressure him into getting involved in a relationship that could ultimately damage my own.
There are some great novels by Robert Heinlein that deal with the concept of group marriages and that is where the idea first occurred to me as something worthwhile. The book Friday particularly springs to mind. If you are readers it might be a good idea to check it out and use that as a start for a discussion - then you can find out her views without necessarily asking about it for your life. Here's a link to the novel: http://www.amazon.com/Friday-Robert-Heinlein/dp/034530988X/sr=8-1/qid=1169316040/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-9667872-5604653?ie=UTF8&s=books
Peace!
2007-01-20 05:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-29 13:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by microni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JF. You know , Guys have a couple of fantasies. 1 is seeing 2 fems in bed together and you watching.
2. Seeing them and being in the middle of it .
3. doing it with some other guys wife.
Well for a Woman mostly they find there's much more fun in fantasizing, than actually doing it.
Oh! she gets it when you joke around casually, she's just hoping your'e not actually going to press the issue. I can tell you, if she was really into it you'd been doing it a long time ago. Also has it occured to you ,that by her experiencing other partners ,that may just magnify your short comings and she'd become disatified with your efforts, if she's not already.I think boredom has settled into your relationship and instead of looking elsewhere ,thinking others will fix it for you . Oh! The swingers will in the short term but she'll get to feeling desirable at first, then cheap and used. She'll resent you big time.It's not all about sex with Women it's the emotional attatchment that gets them going.
Instead of checking out others sexual prowess why don't you treat your wife and yourself to some Tantra Sex classes. You'll become closer as a couple and your senses will be heightened. You'll *** just by using your senses and that sort of intimacy will last you the rest of your marriage. Suggest she tries Pole dancing, She'll find her inner sexy woman, you'll reap the benifits. Better yet you learn to Pole dance for her. Get some intimate toys to spice up your sex. Same result you'll reap the benefits and she'd love it.
Treat yourselves to a few romantic weekends and treat her very well. Take things slow and real nice and easy. What you'll get in retun some Hot Heavy stuff you wouldn't get continuously from a Stranger.With the same amount of intimacy you both share. She knows what turns you on.
So it's up to you. She maybe so bored with what you have to offer ,then anybody will be an improvement. You take your chances. You know where your Wife has been can you say that about the Swingers.
Good Luck both do something you can enjoy together.
2007-01-20 05:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your wife is not up to swinging, then there is no way you will change her mind. If it is something you cannot live with then get out of your marriage and find a woman that is up to swinging with you. Swinging both partners have to brutally honest with each other and trust each other totally. If there is not that in a marriage then swinging is not a good idea. If you two are not open to sexual encounters with others then you need to find a woman that can understand your sexual desires.
Swinging is not perverted or unusual but there are ramification if both parties are not open for the sexual adventure.
2007-01-20 05:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would say have her read up on the basic joys and general information on swinging, either from current swingers or swinging community websites. It's the information age, and I'm sure you'll find something. Or, if you want to inform her in a more head-on fashion, I'd say sit her down and let her know of the cautions, but also of the preventions of any waryness that might linger. If she's an open-minded person, she should at least want to know more about it if not actually try it herself. You'll do fine.
2007-01-20 05:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa J 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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How can I interest my wife in swinging?
No jokes here please, they will be reported as abuse. Anyway, anyone have ideas as to how I may get my wife interested in swinging? I make little jokes about it from time to time, but am apprehensive about carrying it further.
2015-08-06 20:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how she reacted to your jokes. Do you think she'd be responsive? Although it really doesn't matter what we guess her response would be. She may shock you. It may have been her secret fantasy for years. Or maybe she's been leading you on, letting you believe she digs your fantasy of 3smones and moresomes when in fact she really hates the idea.
Another question for you: Why are YOU interested in it? Is it to "spice up" a lackluster sex life? Is it because you're subconsciously looking for a replacement? Is it because you resent being "caged" up by marriage and only getting to screw one woman for the rest of your life? How will you respond if your wife absolutely refuses? Do you still feel you are entitled to a little extra somethin' on the side?? Because you're not...not if you want to remain in a relationship with someone who is offended by the very idea of it.
I'm a woman and a swinger. Hubby and I have been married for 12 years now and had great success with it for 3 of those years. We're currently back to monogamy due to life circumstances, but looking forward to getting back into it soon. I was initially hurt, confused and offended by his suggestion of an MFM 3some. I mean how could he just pass me around to strange men like that!? Did I mean nothing to him? It took us a long time and a lot of talking before I realized that he wasn't ASKING something of me; he was OFFERING me a GIFT. He just wanted to see me happy and sexually fulfilled. He loves knowing that I am enjoying life and all it's joys to the fullest. He's a very secure man and he realizes that it's normal for both of us to be attracted to other people. He also realizes that this does not reflect on the amount of or quality of love I have for him, nor his for me.
It's going to take some time and some effort on your part for your wife to realize that you are on the level and that you are trustworthy. What you are asking her to risk is no small thing; are you sure you are able to hold up your end of the bargin and not abuse the trust you are asking her to place in you? If you have any question about whether or not you'll be able to play by the rules you set, keep your promises to her, and say no when Mr. Happy is screaming "YES! For the love of God, YES!", then back away from it all right now.
You won't be able to "convince" your wife to do anything she feels is wrong, and to pressure her into it in any way is just plain unethical. You'll just hurt yourselves. But for ideas from actual swingers on how to bring up the conversation and for other stories from people who have actual experience doing just that, visit the message board at the link below. Best resource for all things swinger on the www, in my humble opinion.
2007-01-20 12:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you need to learn to love your wife more rather than just seeing here and other people as sex tools. If you really love her than no matter the sex life you would be happy. A married couple should learn to bring their needs to each other and try and make the other person happy. This doesn't mean looking to third parties or doing something offensive. Your wife is a treasure that you should hold on to and keep close.
God Bless,
Elisha
2007-01-20 05:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Elisha 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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