I met this amazing girl. She met my needs of affection, love, and sex, had a great personality and she was extremely attractive, and she knew all the tricks, she was so seductive – I don’t know how she ended up going out with a guy like me, she could’ve done way better easily – she was my first true love, and then we got in a fight and our relationship became no more – how do I move on with my life and focus on what’s important – my family, my other friends – what can I do – visualization, cognitive behavioral therapy….something.
2007-01-20 04:48:03 · 6 answers · asked by Muscrat 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You will always notice other women. And, they will always notice you. You'll even get about as many offers from them when you are married as when you are not! So, being tempted (and having offers) alone is no sign that you're defective, or bad, or wrong (simply human).
The difference is that when you're in a committed relationship (ie, marriage) you decide to resist such temptation. You still get the same offers, still have the same urges, but now you decide to keep your sexual activity within the rules of your relationship (and each relationship does have slightly different rules).
Should you be unable to resist those temptations, THEN you should seek professional help.
2007-01-20 04:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems from your past relationship you had very low self esteem. "I don’t know how she ended up going out with a guy like me" You had a conviction that she was too good for you.May be the same Inferiority complexes resulted in the fights and separation.
Every man has his own strenths and weaknesses and not every one is perfect. You have to spend some time in finding out your strengths and build on them.Meditation can help you to Manage your Mind and emotions.
Never give up....keep kicking....life is short ..enjoy it...dont waste it for the past or future.....dont forget to live the present...live it king size...good luck
2007-01-20 07:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by biju5555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier said than done: But you MUST remain chill. All the things you suggest are very good: just hang out with friends and family, be cool, relax.
Get friendly with other females, and always work on your game.
Make sure to exercise and eat right.
Finally, take up some new hobbies. Keep yourself busy.
If you're cool, relaxed, exercise, and take up some new hobbies, THEN this chick or a hotter one is going to come crawling back.
2007-01-20 04:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mind of Clyde 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, truthfully how old are you? And why do you want to move on? If she met the above mentioned needs/wants/desires then why not make up with her, are at least give it a shot. But, I can understand, I to knew this gentlemen, this man was everything I could have wanted/needed/desired. In fact for over 30 years he was the one and only man that could, lets say, make me behave. And then one day he threw me away. Threw me away while I was still madly In Love with him. i find myself thinking of him everyday. I even pray to God in heaven to make me stop loving him. But God has not answered this prayer. So,,, on a brighter note. Give it one more try, really try, be truthful with her, and I will say alittle prayer for you. Somethings are meant to be. If you don't give it one more try (put your heart, entire being into it) I feel you will never be able to move on or forget her. As for me, am still praying that someday my first and only true love will finally realize what he threw away...and only God in Heaven knows what will happen next for either one of us. Good Luck. And I'll be praying for you.
2007-01-20 05:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time heals, and you have to live your life normally, i had a similar problem like this before, but i went out with guys normally but never let myself be attached to anyone, i used to enjoy my time, but when i think i might really like this person, i just run away :)so i learned a lot from the guys i met, till i found my husband, whom i appreciate a lot knowing that there is many bad people out there :)
2007-01-20 05:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-20 05:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋