He is still talking to this woman what should i do
2007-01-20 04:45:04 · 61 answers · asked by Metasha B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Who cares if the baby is his or not - he shag*ged another woman. Dump him and do it now.
2007-01-20 04:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 16⤊ 1⤋
Do you trust him???
if the answer is no - leave him
if the answer is yes -
would you be able to cope with the relationship if the baby is his? remember he'll want a relationship with this child and will therefore need to be in regular contact with the mother... if you don't like that he is talking to her now.. how are you going to react when he goes round there or maybe has a few 'family' days out with mother and baby wihtout you?
this is a situation that will not go away.. if you feel it is worth trying then good on you and good luck to you... but if you know in your heart that cracks are going to appear it is best to get out now before anymore heart ache and definately before there is a baby involved.
why doesn't he think the baby is his... on the probability scale is it likely that it is his?
When he talks to this woman do you trust that there is nothing more to it than that. Women tend to feel a lot more cheated by their men having emotional relationships with other women than an actual sexual one... so they can get over an affair but not the man still being friends with the woman..
This seems to be really upsetting you already..Have you thought about taking a break from the relationship for a while, get away and give him a chance to get his head clear and find out if it is you he really wants.. I think it'd be good for your own health to have a few days pampering...at his expense.. and take a break so you can both clear your minds and look at it all refreshed in a few days time.
take care
2007-01-20 05:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get pregnant, then kill her and blame it on the hormones and the stress, make it look like an accident LOL
If he has gotten this other woman pregnant then how can he not think so.
So you're not sure whether to believe your bf that a woman he is in contact with and has had sex with isnt carrying his baby.
I guess you could think how much you really Loved him, or it wouldnt matter.
Find out if she's been having sex with anyone else, or go all crazy and try and figure out when he slept with her and how far along she is. You can ask him when he slept with her and why he thinks it's not his. And ask her when she's due for a check up, unless you're worst enemies which then i guess you'll have to wait and see if he starts getting involved with her about the baby/ pregnancy check ups.
But he could just be friends with her and not be the father.
If you think he's cheated on you, can you trust him not to do it again. What makes you think it's his, just since he slept with her?
IF he got her pregnant then the baby is his.
Do you know him well enough to know whether he would lie about it to keep the peace
2007-01-20 04:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by bloodysnowravenkisses84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fiest, you should establish if the child-to-be IS his by way of the convential blood test. Secondly, tell him his devotion to you is in question. IF the baby IS his, you may want to consider splitting up, because the odds are once that child's born, it could lead to a bond between him and the 'the other woman'. BUT-- if you still love him, and he DOES care for you, there'd be no harm in letting him keep the lines of communication open with the other woman, though you'll have to expect he'll probably do what got her the baby in the first place. Have you considered having a child yourself ?
2007-01-20 05:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by 21FRANK D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, you need to decide what you want. if you want to be with him whether or whether not the child is his, you need to talk to him about this, let him know, and then see how you can make that happen. if he doesn't want to be with you if the child is his, then you need to let him go--point blank.
second, if the child is not his but he still talks with the woman and you think there are things going on behind your back, you need to confront him and see what's going on. if he's talking to her now, there is a possibility the situation could get worse and then there you are stuck in the middle.
third, if the child is his and he wants to be with that woman, you need to accept it and move on. love is strong but, how would you feel if he had the child for a couple hours or a day or a weekend and once he came back to the house, just up and left you with the responsibility of watching it and taking care of it?? some men will keep both women around, so he doesn't have to do anything, because he knows the other one will take care of him if he leaves or just sits there and lets it cry.
2007-01-20 04:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm shocked, you even have to ask, the minute there was the possibility that my husband had fathered another woman's child. meaning of course that he had sex with someone other than me. His A S S would be on the curb and his S H I T would be all over the yard. Get some self respect and dump him. Come on, you have to respect yourself before you can expect to find as mate who will respect you. Get a back bone girl friend. Don't put up with this.
2007-01-20 06:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did he sleep with her prior to going out with you??? Or did he cheat on you??? That is a big difference. If he cheated leave him. Chances are he'll do it again. And if he didn't, stick around he sounds like a great guy. Most guys don't want anything to do with babies. When the baby is born get a preternity test to see if he is the father. Good luck.
Baby Due - (08-26-2007)
2007-01-20 05:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Trying to conceive 08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no its hard but leave him. Not only has he cheated with out protection (so you could now have a sti), he is still talking to her. He has shown you no respect and maybe given you a sexual transmitted infection. If the baby is his are you gonna be able to see him give money away or go round and visit them.
You deserve better. Plus if he thinks he can get away with it once he will probably do it again.
Im sorry you have to go through this. Hope their is someone to help you.
2007-01-21 23:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well at least he has been honest and told you about the other woman
this woman is the mother of his unborn child - of course he is still going to talk to her
I think if you cant handle it you should break up with him - this woman is going to be a part of his life, until he knows for sure if this baby is his! and then if it is, so is the baby!
i know it must be hard but your going to either have to deal with it or leave him
2007-01-20 08:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 16:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by ricaurte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has to keep talking to the woman to find out for sure, maybe he won't find out until the baby is born so you could be in for a long wait. What do you want to do, you want to stay with him??
2007-01-20 05:41:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋