2007-01-20 04:40:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the rock says.....it rocks!
2007-01-20 04:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm in counselling, at the other party's request. It only works part way for my situation. My partner is more interested in keeping the marriage together, yet I am not seeing the changes I need to make the counselling worth the time. I am almost ready to start the process of finding legal advice. The point of the story is, both of you must be very willing to compromise and *act* on it. No relationship is easy, and the ones that are worth keeping need a lot of attention. If a counselor is what you need to help you to your goal, by all means do so. Be prepared to do what is needed. If through counselling you discover you have made a mistake, have the counselor help you through a separation. It will make things easier in the long run.
2007-01-20 14:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by me too 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling is the best way to go when you see trouble approaching. The earlier you can get in there the better off you are. Couples shouldn't wait until they have trouble talking to each other they shouldn't go as soon as they see any change in the relationship. By the time you really stop wanting to talk to your spouse it's hard to fix things yourself. Counseling is not design to make you feel good or bad. It's design to get to the root of the problem so healing can begin. You will learn not only things about your mate but about yourself as well. Sometimes it's hard for us to see the truth about ourselves and our situations. Counseling helps to guide you in your daily life so that you will learn to live as stress free as possible. We will never be without some stressful situations but we can learn to cope with them better. Everyone has their own way of thinking counseling helps you to understand the other person feeling. I recommend counseling for everyone. You don't have to be married. Even if you are single it's a good way to keep you focus and relaxed in your life. Give it a try. Good luck!
2007-01-20 12:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an excellent reality check when neither party has the objectiveness to admit their own fault in the problems of the marriage. In fact, when I was married years ago, we went to counseling b/c of something my wife did to cause strain in the marriage. By the time we had finished counseling, I had discovered my own faults & contributions to the problems we were having. Often, it really IS a two-way street....even when our pride tells us the other person is completely to blame. Sometimes it takes someone who DOESN'T love you to give you the cold hard truth. Counselors are good for that.
2007-01-20 13:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by muzik_guy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Peanut,
I like it OK. It depends on the person and how they react to the subject. Also, ones seeking Counseling, you have to interview a few before you find one compatible with. I have had great Counselors and some that didn't help, but, it's all about a person's willingness to open up with their life and wanting help from someone in the "field" to discuss problems with, or whatever the problem.
2007-01-20 13:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by julesrules 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it serves a valued purpose depending on the person doing it and how they do it. I know a pastor who makes the couple switch cell phones for a week, makes them show each other their driver's licenses and credit reports. a lot of people were flabbergasted but I completely understood his point. why marry someone you know very little about? knowing your fiances favorite restaurant and color aren't gonna cut it! I need to know your credit standing to see if we'll ever be able to get a house together, I want to know what kind of people you talk to on a regular basis to make sure no loan sharks or ex psycho girlfriends do not call you regularly and I want to make sure I know your real name... or at least the name you are going by! You'd be amazed at some of the things revealed when the pastor did this with many couples. some broke the engagement and saved themselves a lot of money, time, energy, headaches and emotions. Others went into the relationship with more trust for one another.
2007-01-20 12:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kisses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to work out then problems then it is great. Counseling is a tool used when the couple can no longer effectively communicate anymore and they need someone with an un-biased opinion to help them. And give them sound advice from a professional that knows a lot about communication.
2007-01-20 12:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the only time counseling will work is if both parties are truly interested in keeping the marriage together.
2007-01-20 12:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just getting the couple to sit down for help is an achievement!
Then having someone to listen to the the problems and sometimes yelling is a blessing! It saved my marriage.
2007-01-20 13:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling is good. Whether you are going before you are married, or when you are trying to fix problems, or even when there are no problems at all.
It helps both partners to easily express themselves.
2007-01-20 12:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by ~Z~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a couple is going through problems in their marriage, I think marriage counceling can be great at helping to overcome and resolve issues in marriage, it gives a couple an alternative to just giving up and divorcing. I think marriage counceling works if BOTH people go into it with an open mind and open heart.
My wife and I have gone through marriage counceling with a pastor from our church, and there were things discussed that made us uncomfortable, but they were things that needed to be said.
I think if a couple is having problems in their marriage it can be worked out with marriage counceling, but like I said, they have to WANT to work it out.
Marriage is hard work and dedication and commitment. And to make it work, you have to work hard at it.
2007-01-20 12:46:46 · answer #11 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋