OK, so i have been hanging out with two of my best mates, 1 guy 1 girl. The girl i used to date for a month, but things got complicated with skl etcetc, but we have decided to stay best friends. Last week i asked her if she fancyed my other best friend, she didnt care bout the question she just got upset about how i got out of it, i lied to her and made it look like her sis had said some stuff....now all i have acomplished is her to not talk to me. I have emailed her and she emails me back, she says she needs space and time....the only problem is im slightly jealous that her and my best friend are getting closer and closer to each other and were getting further and further apart, and its killing me! i just want her back as my friend, What can i do!! i love her as a friend and would be devastated if i lost her...i asked her summin on msn the other day and she said 'yes now go away'...its harsh, i dnt think i deserve it! i really really want her back as my friend, can someone help!!!
2007-01-20 04:39:21 · 15 answers · asked by shishuzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Then give her the "time and space" she needs.
2007-01-20 04:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me say this first... When people are just friends they don't put all that much into what the other person said. They might get mad or upset but this will usually go away. If she is still mad @ you this seems like maybe there are more feelings there than a normal friendship. I would try a few things apologize un-conditionally... Tell her no matter what the outcome you were wrong and have to tell her. Tell her how you feel about her and ask your self why you lied to someone you care about like that. And don't e-mail her call her or even better talk to her in person.
2007-01-20 04:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by darin s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well uv definitely shot urself in the foot there, but I'm sure ur aware of that now. Friends are important to have, especially when they have become ur best mate. i believe that u should be open and have an honest relation and be able to say whatever without the friend mis-interpreting it, they should know u best by now and what u mean. if she's misunderstood ur intentions then thats her prerogative. If she wants space, give her that, if she really see's u as her best mate, she will come to u. I think friendship is about respect, clearly she doesn't.
2007-01-20 04:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if she doesnt listen to you.. text or email her saying that you are sorry that you lied to her but you didnt want her to be hurt by your lie you just care about her and thought she might be upset and think that something was going on if you didnt say something..
say it was just the first thing that came to mind and it was stupid and you wish you'd have just not said anything..
tell her how much you miss her and never thought that it would be like this..
even if you dont think its fair dont tell her this because it can only make matters worse.. but again if she asks about if you thought it was fair do tell her the truth :)
hope this helps x
2007-01-20 04:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologise lower back-perhaps write her a letter telling her the way you experience. somewhat present might want to probable be a welcomed gesture-no longer some thing romantic-you do not wanna provide her the incorrect concept-merely some thing small yet thoughtful. What are her pastimes and so on?? imagine alongside those lines. strong success.
2016-12-02 19:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ,give her the space she asks for mate, you can't do any more than that. You put your foot right in it and now you have to bare the treatment,Learn from this mate and don't do it again.
2007-01-20 04:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is not an attractive thing to have to tolerate...as a friend or lover...if you really do just wanna be friends...tell her so....you never lie to friends either...if i understand what you say this all began over a stupid little lie...so call her now and tell her the truth...and that you are sorry...sure you do not want her back tho...it sounds like you do
2007-01-20 04:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you to give her space and time and by not doing that youre making it worse. Leave her alone and maybe after awhile she will start to miss you. If you dont all you will accomplish is to annoy her.
2007-01-20 04:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your sorry, it was me, but I didn´t thought it would hurt you. I mean were friends forever. Tell her the truth, girls love that. Maybe shes kind of upset, and thinks you know shes dating him, and didn´t want you to know, or something.
2007-01-20 04:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by pink lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u did lie on her sister. Just give her some time and try mingling with other ppl to find friends.
2007-01-20 04:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shanteria I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋