yet she is responsible for the majority of the mess... for example... one day... Being the "good" husband... I cleaned up around our front entrance... inside... washed the floor, washed the door, the walls... tidied the entry way closet... then went outside and cleaned up all the "trash" bags... flower pots... planting soil...gardening tools (all my wife's) I sprayed... and swept... and washed... all done and rather satisfied with my labor... I sat down for a break... then asked my wife if she needed anything before going to the store for a soda... when I get back... she had gathered a modest heap of "junk" old broom.. an empty box of cat litter.. old cat litter pan... and a bag of garbage... and placed it all on the front step.. again...and no matter what I clean in the house... it's a matter of moments before my wife... tosses an empty bag... a used take out cup... old mail... a candy wrapper etc... onto that clean space... so I've given up... what should I do?
2007-01-20 04:30:07 · 6 answers · asked by alex b 3 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
This sounds like a question for Dear Abby! I guess I would suggest making arragements about who is going to do what on a weekly or monthly basis. For example, you might have to wash the dishes for the week, while your wife is responsible for vaccuuming, etc... This may seem like a childish idea, but at least you would know who is supposed to be doing which chores.
2007-01-20 04:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by BethS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were your wife I would be grateful to have you. I married a man that cannot finish a task. He will fold most of the clothing if I wash and dry it and I put it away. If I ask him to sweep and mop for me, he sweeps and mops around whatever may be on the floor. We have custody of 2 of our grandchildren and I had to take the oldest, who is 3 to a specialist in another town the other day. I had to leave my house by 7 a.m. to get him to his appointment at 8:30. My husband decided to help out by doing the laundry. HIS laundry. Not mine or the children's, just his.
So after having gotten up at 6 a.m. and driving 2 hours and spending 4 hours at an All Children's Emergency Room and doctors office, I had to come home and do the laundry for me and the children.
So if I were you, I would start treating you like my husband has been treating me lately. Then when you go back to the way you are now, she will be grateful too.
2007-01-20 04:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some of the best housekeepers I know are men. At any rate, make a list of household duties with your wife. Assign each task to someone. During the week as the tasks are completed, check-off the item. Be sure to hang the list in a place where it is visible. As the week progresses, it will become clear who is doing the most work. Your friends may comment on this, and it will create pressure for your wife to do her share. Remember too, some people are just not bothered by *stuff* being around. She may be one of those people.
2007-01-20 05:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come up with a plan and work together!
Maybe take turns everyother week on different areas of the house!
2007-01-20 04:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit down and talk with her about it... about how you feel, how hard you work, and how you feel like she always makes messes in the spot you just cleaned up.
Communication is essential here.
2007-01-20 04:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by EC 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, she is blessed.
You are a wonder.
2007-01-20 09:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋