My partner has two children and having a divorce but i've been waiting a year now, i'm now pregnant and feel i've taken on too much, he he as the kids every other weekend and we are moving house and he wants to his wife which he is meant to be divorcing up on her offer bringing wardroobs and things into our new house, i would like some advice please guys xxx
2007-01-20 04:15:42 · 4 answers · asked by Help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me understand. You live with a man whom you are not married to. You are pregnant with his child. He is separated and going through a divorce, having two children with his wife. He spends time with them as he should. You are moving into a new house and his wife has to bring the things that belong to him.
There are so many bad judgements in all of this. You are pregnant and your shack up man will have to divide his time between your child and his children. You will be their stepmom and will have to be loving and kind to them. YOu need to share him with them or it will not work out. You can't undo the past but you need to make sure the future will be to have a solid family and to raise your children right.
2007-01-20 04:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by VW 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with a partner who is divorcing his wife of 28 years to be with me, I have known him since 2003, but till he moved out and filed for divorce in 2005, we had a friendship and nothing more. He is a very known Doctor in a small town and I am now living with him, ten minutes away from his marital home where his wife still lives and his three grown kids come to visit.
it is now 2007 and the divorce proceedings are slow, because it is a complicated situation and his wife is very angry about it all,
My point is, divorce takes time, your partner will always have ties to his ex via the kids. Make sure you are patient and yes, it's a lot to take on; but if he has a civil and friendly relationship with his soon to be ex, and your future step children that is a good thing. You should have waited till you married the guy to get pregnant. But here you are, take things in stride, do not cause any jealousy tantrums, you are not in a position to tell him what to do. not only you are not yet married to the guy, if you give him too much grief he might decide it's not worth it and go back to his ex.
Hang in there and make sure to build a great relationship with his kids. Good Luck.
2007-01-20 04:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want her stuff, tell him that!
She is going to have to come to your house from time to time to drop off kids, pick up kids, b-day parties, etc. It will be easier for the kids if you two are nice to each other!
You don't have to take the wardrobes, but be nice. Tell her you already got one from IKEA!
Be careful not to give us a headache w/ improper grammar & spelling!
2007-01-20 04:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im confused what exactly are you trying to say.
2007-01-20 04:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋