found out he was married after bing together 4 years. ok **** happens. But It took him 10 long agging months to get a divorce. Killed it for me how long should I wait to get back in the game. Never cried when I left.
2007-01-20 04:13:34 · 17 answers · asked by Cydney w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not trying to be insulting, but how did you not know for 4 years? Wasn't it weird when he would disappear for a few days and not tell you where he was? How did he ever get away with this for so long?
I'm sorry you've had such a rough time. I agree; do a background check (I think marriages are public record; you can also look online somewhere to see if he owns property with someone). Get back out there; not everyone is a slimeball, believe it or not.
2007-01-20 04:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that...Start now and take it slowly. But I'm a little unclear...It sounds like you stayed with him after you found out he was married and waited around for the divorce. Then after you realized it took him too long to leave his wife, THEN you left him. THAT'S the part that "killed it" for you? Why would you want someone who was lying to the both of you anyway? And then after your KNEW you still were a party to breaking up another person's marriage...
Honestly, I find it hard to believe you can be with someone for 4 years and not know he's married. Were you in different towns? There are usually signs a man is married. Did you ever visit his house? Or call his house (not on his cell)? Did he have certain hours you couldn't be together or come up with dumb excuses all the time? I imagine he couldn't have spent the night with you at your place a lot.
Am I wrong or did you know he was married but didn't want to really know?
Maybe I was mistaken about starting to date again now...Don't date and possibly subject someone else to this.
If I'm wrong and your sitch isn't as bad as it sounds, I apologize.
2007-01-20 04:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back when you want to, how in the world can someone leave with someone and not know their married 4 years. Did ever see his family, if so none of them said anything about him being married. I wouldn't wait a minute, you weren't married to him so why would you have any reason to set a time limit in how long it takes to get back in the game. You could have been in the game through your whole relationship with him , the only time someone waits is if that is if you were married and your spouse died., these days a person really doesn't set a long time limit if they die.
2007-01-20 04:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question is very unclear. I will try to make sense of it. You were with a married man, as his mistress for five years, without knowing he was married, How that is possible, I don't know. What about birthdays, major holidays, evenings, nights. Valentine's day? Did he tell you he travels a lot for his work?
Now he is divorced? but you left him.
So, good for you. If someone is capable to carry on suck lies and deceit, it's more then just untruth, its' PATHOLOGICAL . it's an illness, and it runs very deep. You can never ever trust the guy, so get yourself together, join a gym, take a few night classes, look good , go out there and have fun.
Let the games begin.
2007-01-20 04:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let that fish go, unhook the hook my dear! 4 years? And why did he suddenly get the divorce, pressure from you? he lied all this time by not telling you or simply denying being in any relationships, what a crapper! let it go, no telling what else he's hiding, genital herpes, anything!
2007-01-20 05:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump back into it as soon as you want to, but this time do a little research about the guy before you get too involved!
2007-01-20 04:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok first off he is a cheater...why would you even trust someone who cheats on his wife?..even if he was getting a divorce, that still is wrong because they haven't completly separated. You need to have alittle more pridde in yourself and set some standards. NO CHEATERS because if he can cheat on her he can cheat on you......
2007-01-20 04:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only u can know when u r ready to get back into the game. Sorry this happened to you too---what a dope... good luck....
2007-01-20 04:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years. That's how long you should wait. Three years until you're able to stand on your own and not make the same mistake again. Good luck.
2007-01-20 04:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋