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last august i lost my virginity ( i was 15 and still am) to a boy that i was soo inlove with (he wasnt a virgin)...but later on (after when we broke up) i found out that he never even loved me and i havent been with anyone ever since we broke up in september... now i feel so terrible cuz a) i lost my virginity to a boy who didnt even like me and b) i still love him........
now im in a huge depression phase and i cant get over it... i just wish that my mom or dad was here (long story) so (s)he could have been my shoulder to cry on... or at the time stopped me from making that huge mistake that ruined my life... im never having sex again or having another boyfriend... ill just become some old pathetic lady who lives alone................
but i dont wanna feel this way...

2007-01-20 04:01:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

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honey, you will be OK, we all get depressed. unfortunately there are a lot of mean and rude people in this world, and were all going to have them around us one way or another. there is nothing you can do now about your virginity, except use what happened to you as an experience, you will know better next time. your not a bad person for having sex. your a little young, but that's the age i was too. i ended up marrying him, just to divorce him 7 years later. Keep your chin up, and realize you have a life time of experiences coming. enjoy being a single, care free teen ager.

2007-01-20 04:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by mozartbuffy69 3 · 0 0

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

2016-05-16 09:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I truely feel for you. I am older now but I can remember back to when I was your age and made that mistake. I stopped living for a long time, all because I was so depressed over losing my boyfriend. Since then I have learned, that to girls having sex is a very emotional act, to a boy it's a physical act. Read 10 Stupid THings Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives by Laura Schlesinger. I am raising my daughters to be abstinant until marriage and to trust in God with their emotions. Doesn't mean they can't date when the time comes, just not to have sex. It seems, in the heat of the moment, that it's the most wonderful thing to happen, then one wakes up to the realities of life and is miserabel for a long time with regrets. You can't undo what happened, but you can go on. I am a christian now because Jesus made me a whole person. Depression is no longer a part of my life. I don't know how I lived without the peace in my heart for so many years.Best wishes to you.

2007-01-20 04:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by VW 6 · 0 0

Ok, calm down a relax. Take a deep breath. Its going to be ok. Im kind of in the same problem, sort of. Im 19, and I gave up all I had for this girl I met. I was going to become a firefighter, I was in a good paying job, and was going to a top 10 school in all the United States. I gave it all up to start a new life across the country. She even had my baby, but a month ago, she left. Now im stuck somewhere I dont know with just a broken promise that she would love me forever. Your heart makes you do things you would never thought you would do, but you also have to listen to your mind and soul. The only good thing about this is that you will know better and your heart will only get stronger. Everything will be ok, you just gotta stay strong.

2007-01-20 04:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Dear ?,
As u mentioned that you were 15 when that happened and u still are. You just have to keep it in your mind that even if you are 115 years old, you can make mistakes. The phrase people used like "the older the wiser" is true in most cases. But a wise person don't makes the same mistakes twice. In your case, it's a bit confusing. How can you tell in the beginning that someone is really in love with you or not. Sometimes a relationship in the beginning stinks but still turns out to be the perfect relationship in the end. What is perfection if we are talking about relationship among people? I don't wanna debate on that. People do wanna get in bed with their boy or girlfriend. You can't do a laboratory test to find out if someone loves you or not. That's a risk one has to take.People who don't love each other even pretends that they are in love. I am not encouraging you to have sex again with someone. It's your choice. It was your choice then. You have to be mature enough to find out the difference between attracted to someone due to sexual instinct and confuse it with love or ........
You know what i mean!!! some years later you will be able to understand that. In the mean time, set your goals in life and work hard for them. In your age people find this very boring. You are missing that boy due to what? Do you really think that you are in love with him? Do you really know what love is? Trust me, the definition of love you know now will change as the time will pass.
A teacher of mine used to say that "Don't run after girls and study hard. If you don't do this you will be running after the girls your whole life. But if you work hard and get a descent job or etc. (which is the ultimate result of education), they will run after you for the rest of your life. Isn't that true?
I don't know where do you live and i don't even know how do you live. But these are the facts of life. try to understand them.
Each mistake we makes can makes us understand the fragility of our decision and the strength of our will, (if we make a stand)

God bless u, and may the best of your today be the worst of your tomorrow.

ps: Plz forgive me if my bla bla hurts your feelings.
sincerely.
A well wisher.

2007-01-20 04:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by faiq69 1 · 0 0

It is not the end of the world. Yes you feel hurt, but sometimes it's just part of us growing. We have to experience things on our own so that we may learn from them. I was the same way. I regretted losing my virginity to the person I did, but you will get over it. I didn't do it again for like two years maybe three after it happened. You just have to count your lost and lift your head up. Yes he took advantage of you, but if he sees that he got the best of you, he'll take advantage of you again. Prove to him that you are better than that and he can't bring you down. Just don't shut off boys completely. Just focus on your school work and living life and if a boy comes along, just be really careful with him.

2007-01-20 04:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

It is true that the story is sad. It is something that none of use desires(really how could they) but it isn't the end of the world for sure. You must keep confident. You are special and you can do it with or without him. Keep your had up, and stay away from guys for while, let them be the ones that search your company. Do things for yourself, things that make you feel beautiful and nice and important. Time cures all wounds, you'll see. Be patient with yourself.:)

2007-01-20 04:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by iunona_33 2 · 0 0

Ok so you made a stupid mistake. You need to realize this and move on. I know that was a big decision you made and now it was a stupid one but you can't go back and change that but you can learn from it and move on. Don't have that attitude about not having another boyfriend or never having sex again just wait until you get married and don't just give up on guys because they aren't all jerks like he was. You need to realize this and not be depressed and move on. That's all I can advice to you.

2007-01-20 04:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0 1

No one likes to be used its a horrible feeling and most of us have had that feeling.Its apart of growning up.There are only two kinds of people in the world Takers and Givers.Us Givers suffer the most.You will met a Giver and you will be happy but only time cures the hurt so just take care of yourself and be kind your time will come.

2007-01-20 04:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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2016-10-07 11:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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