My best friend is pregnant, and she smokes like 2 or 3 ciggarettes a day, and she drinks a lot of cafffene. Should I report her? Is she killing her baby?
2007-01-20 04:00:42 · 30 answers · asked by tnk_l2_l3ell 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
she is not going to kill it, but the chances of it being born prematurely are higher, as well as the risks of it having underdeveloped lungs are higher. There is no one to report it too, it is sad that some people do this to their unborn children, but there is no law against it.
2007-01-20 04:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is bit stiff to think of reporting your best friend. You should try talking with her about the situation before considering reporting her. Smoking is unhealthy for the baby, but as many women have reported, they have done it with no negative results. I'm not saying that it is okay to smoke, but she could be doing MUCH MUCH worse. How much caffeine is a lot to you? I have two very healthy children (7 and 2 months) and I drank caffeine with them both. Tea and coke were what I craved the most and I drank it all the time. Never had a bad test result with either.
If you do not have any children, you cannot put yourself in her shoes. No one lives by the book and is an angel during their pregnancy, regardless of what they say. If she is only smoking 2-3 three a day, leave her alone.
2007-01-24 03:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by mommy2two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she isn't killing her baby...It's okay to at least have up to 3 cigarettes a day..(as told by my best friends doctor). The doctor said, of course, it wasn't ideal, and that if she could quit, that would be better...but she knew that quitting also causes stress, and that is certainly not good for the mommy or the baby. The doctor said up to about 3 a day, was okay. My mother-in-law smoked a lot more than that the entire time she was pregnant with my husband and my brother-in-law, and they both turned out as healthy and fine as they could be. Not saying that happens in 100% of cases, but I think you were overreacting a little. As for the caffeine, it doesn't really have much affect on the baby. That rule is mainly for the mother's health. More than 3 or 4 caffeinated beverages a day, isn't really good for the mother, b/c it dehydrates her...that's about it. Neither one of these things will kill the baby or the mother. I'm not saying they are wonderful things to be doing while your friend is pregnant, but maybe you should calm down, and get a little more information about everything, before you jump straight to flipping out and thinking about "reporting" your friend...which I suppose is what you were trying to do by asking this question on here! :) Just talk to your friend and maybe both of yall can do a little research, or maybe you can go with her to a doctor's appointment and talk to the doctor about all of these things. Just make sure that she knows that these things she's doing aren't great for her while she's pregnant. I hope this helps, and good luck to your friend.
2007-01-20 04:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by brandi3341 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Drinking some caffeine during pregnancy is not harmful. There are numerous websites, books, journals, magazines and doctors out there who will tell you that 2-3 caffeinated drinks a day are fine. You should cut back, but will most likely not harm the baby at all. You have to think though. There are numerous factors in everyday life that can cause harm to a growing child. I am 28 weeks right now and have to drink caffeine in the morning or else I suffer major withdrawl headaches. I drink 1 soda in the morning and 1 at dinner. I also drink a lot of water and juice.
I have also smoked a cigarette every now and then. I don't go around smoking a whole pack in a day, but I am around it. Its one thing that is easy to get a hold of to ease stress. Yes, its a bad way to deal with stress, but its one of the ways that I do. I also walk (briskly), get fresh air, exercise, lay down and relax and some other techniques to ease stress.
Calling the authorities on her (who wont do anything anyway, unless she is doing Meth or something) wont do anything, but probably put added stress on her and might make her want to smoke more. Just talk to her and voice your opinion, but you have to realize that this is her choice and she is the one that will have to deal with whatever consequences happen.
2007-01-20 05:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello, she is harming her baby, but reporting her no i do not think so . I beleive maybe you could show her some web sites too go look at even maybe buy her Books too read about it all & try too help & talk too her about it all .The chances of it being born early is good but you never know it might be on time with what the doctor says. You didn't say what she was smoking if cig. shes just harming the baby if something else the baby will be addicting also . She needs too learn all she can too produce healthy & normal baby !!!
Good Luck & Best Wishes!!
May GOD Bless You & Yours & All !
2007-01-20 04:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her to who? SAS? Don't do that! Yes she's harming her baby, her baby will be born small for his gestational age, her placenta will deteriorate and her labor will be long and horrible... but she's addicted to these substances, try being a real friend and helping her see what she is doing wrong instead of a ***** and helping the government take her kid from her. If you ate hamburgers every day thru your pregnancy you'd be doing just as much harm, would you like your BEST FRIEND to do this to you? Grow up, get a spine and learn what being a real friend is all about.
2007-01-20 05:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't report her just talk to her about it. I did everything right in my pregnancy and had my son 2 months early and almost lost him and me! My cousin smoke drank and everything else and had a beautiful baby girl! I didn't understand that. But I don't think smoking is good for the baby. A little caffiene won't hurt though
2007-01-20 04:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by C***** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't report her, just talk to her. Urge her to stop smoking at least until after the baby is born. Smoking can provoke asthma, other lung problems (ie: underdevelopment), early births, and other birth defects. I'm not trying to scare you--I'm just letting you know. She's not killing her baby in a literal sense; she's killing it by not allowing it to possibly have fully develolped body parts and by possibly causing health problems before or after it sees the world. Remember, the baby didn't ASK to be born...it just was.
2007-01-20 04:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never smoke, but I drink coffee. Yes, she is harming her baby...but you don't need to report her. She's not really "killing" it, however, the baby is developing, so it's bad. The baby's risks of being born premature or with a disability are higher.
2007-01-20 06:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by yahoo user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely harming her baby,caffiene can l;ead to miscarriage and birth defects.Same goes for smoking,smoking is terrible for pregnancy,it causes lack of oxygen,can cause miscarriage,birth defects,low birth weight,premature labor etc...A couple years ago I was pregnant and didnt know i was at all,i was smoking cigarettes and drinking caffiene everyday sadly I miscarried and I believe because of the choices I made,Once I found out I was pregnant I stopped smoking,taking vitamins etc. but it was too late (7-8 weeks)...U should sit down with her and have a very long talk,tell her how this is harming her baby and she needs to quit at least as long as she is pregnant for the health of her baby..There are sodas out there with very little sodium and no caffiene if she needs her coke and get her some chewing gum or candy for the smoking..Help her as much as u can..If she still doesnt stop try getting help elsewhere for her..This is going to be tough but if she loves and cares for this baby she will quit now!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-20 04:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well reporting her is a little extreme but you should definately show her and talk to her about what her actions are doing. And dont leave out the effects baby could have after its born. If she still doesnt want to change then stop talking to her. Maybe she'll get the idea?
2007-01-20 04:10:37 · answer #11 · answered by DeeLicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋