For my marriage, i resigned from my job one week ago. I had to do this to put an end to the sexual advances my officemate does to me. I confess that i'm extremely tempted by these sexual moves he's been doing, as he's one hot guy. But i love my husband, & i don't want to ruin our marriage by letting another man have his way on me. As i confessed in this forum before, my coworker has already taken me one-time (during our xmas party), & has since been asking me to allow him to come inside me once more. A few days before my resignation, he's always been kissing & hugging me at the office whenever he's had a chance. Now that i had quit that job, i thought all was over. Lately, he's been coming over my house whenever my husband is not there, & he's been able to take me once again. He made me experience one unforgettable sex, & i forgot i'm married with the sexual intimacy we had shared. I cried afterwards, as the guilt I felt was so much. I told him we must stop, but he said no. What to do?
2007-01-20 03:53:44 · 27 answers · asked by jenny d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband will be leaving for a business trip next week, & he'd be out for a minimum of two weeks. I have told my lover abt this, & he's ecstatic. He said he's looking forward to having me all by himslef right in my matrimonial bed in my husband's absence. I admit i'm so excited by this thought, but my conscience is bothering me, as my husband trusts me so much, though he knows how hot the men around us find me. How can i stop this temptation? I love my husband so much. Please advice.
2007-01-20 03:59:11 · update #1
You forgot you were married? You messed up, now you have to make it right. Tell your husband and take it from there.
2007-01-20 03:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not the victim here (your husband is), but you do need assistance, and the only place you're going to get it is from your husband. If you truly love him and want to stop but can't (the "can't" part is obvious, the "love" isn't), then you have no alternative. This person obviously already has you in his control, and although you've taken a step to keep him from you, it's not difinitive enough.
Even though you no longer work there, you would still be well within your bounds to file workplace sexual harassment charges against him. Threaten that.
You yourself are letting it slip through that you really don't want this to end however. You tried to end this quietly, and it didn't work. Exposing this is your only chance.
2007-01-20 05:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're shying away from accepting any responsibility for your own behavior. "He's been able to take me once again," implies that you were innocent and unable to make any choice in the matter. Tell your husband about this and see a marriage counselor. Otherwise get a divorce and live a promiscuous lifestyle. Some people are just naturally promiscuous and you may be one of those people. Better to admit what you are and live that way than to continue to hurt your significant others.
2007-01-20 04:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Benji Duncan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELP I’m having S E X WITH A CO-WORKER and I CAN”T STOP !!!!!
COME ON……(groan) You made a choice to have sex with your coworker (several times apparently!!) and NOW you want him to stop having sex with you ?? Well, for starter’s maybe not spreading for your co-worker might be a place to start ??
Then maybe you better decide whether you want to be married or,, be alone to have HOT WILD MONKEY SEX with whomever you wish? You need to tell your husband as you’re following your wild sex urges… YOU ARE HURTING HIM and You Owe him that much at the very least!! If your HUSBAND is able to accept your apology and not run like the wind, then tell Sir Lanceherallot to get LOST !!
Stand up! grow a pair! Stop hurting your husband!!
2007-01-20 04:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to stop him you should tell him to stay the f uck away from you, but that is not what you want because it semms to me the you are enjoying been a w hore with this hot guy and of course after while you feel guilty because you know the you are cheating on you husband the loves you. you are encoraging this man to come to you house and f uck you while you husban is out of town. or what other reason you have to tell him the you husband will be out of town. you know waht they say ones is a mistake, two is stupidity and three you a w hore. i hope the you at lease have the desence the don do it in you husbands bed.
2007-01-20 04:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You sound like you're trying really hard. I've never been in your shoes, but I can appreciate how hard it is to push someone off. I managed, but it turned out that my BF and I broke up jsut at the time that this other guy kissed me. That was it, but I know how it is to have to avoid that person with all your might.
Now, to get someone to back off of you, you've gotta be 100%. I know how hard that is, like I said.
But I've been through a stalker situation before. I managed to be 100% clear to a "friend" (male), and he instead stalked my best friend. She would break down and give in with attention now and then, and this got him going again.
Anybody can become a stalker, if you seem to be playing hard-to-get.
And you probably do seem to be doing that, even though your intentions are so clearly not that from the outside.
Or are they? I can't even say that honestly, there is no part of you that wants this.
So, please make sure you fight your own battle within yourself.
You are not just fighting him off, you are fighting your own whims.
You've got to be just as consistent with yourself as with him.
When you've finally had enough, it will end.
2007-01-20 04:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry not buying the guilt thing. Once maybe but 3X's. You are having an affair and putting all the blame on the other guy. No one ever forgets they are married. As for him taking you, stop giving yourself and that problem will go away. Feel bad for your husband.You should tell him so he can go find a nice lady to be with.
2007-01-20 04:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by noddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
looks as if he is going to blackmail u, and is refusing to take no for an answer, if your husband finds this out, u could loose him. u need to stop this, u do have control over your choices, control if u let him in. u need to have more self respect for yourself, and respect for your marriage. he only wants the sex, and not the committment that goes with it. sure it was flattering at first, but now has become a problem. he is in it for one thing, and once your hubby is gone he will also be gone, this is just a challange to him.
2007-01-20 04:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if your husband finds out he'll be crushed but at least your co-worker will be able to have you all to himself. I'm sorry to be rude, but you cheated. You never should of let that guy get that close to you in the first place. You're right, you're married. I just hope you don't bring your husband down with you.
2007-01-20 04:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you without a spine? Listen, you're a cheater. It's not your co-workers fault, it's yours. You need to get a divorce and tell your husband that your are a worthless cheater who doesn't deserve him. I mean really! This is an open and shut case! Sometimes I wish I could just reach through this screen and slap some intelligence into people.
2007-01-20 03:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by delux_version 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The OM slagging the husband off to the spouse is completley out of order and he or she allowed it to proceed. Im sorry yet I wouldnt enable some artwork collegue slag my mum off or all of us else for that count number. that is defo a slippery street to an affair likely. or perhaps with if its no longer an affair it doesnt sit properly, the verbal change is too close for convenience. She ought to go away her pastime. If its going to placed you in finacial challenge then she ought to stay. Marriage or pastime? i might want to %. marriage
2016-12-02 19:07:02 · answer #11 · answered by klosterman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋