I have a guy Friend who is interested in me. I have known him for 8 years now. So far, he's ALL TALK and NO ACTION, I mean, he had been asking me for a relationship with him, his name is Sam. He makes "advances" and I don't want to GO THERE because I am married and he knows this.
The thing is, I like Sam as a Friend, but, lately I'm about to end this friendship, because he started yelling at me over the phone and being disrespectful last week because I didn't want to go visit him at HIS convenience! We have had arguments over this before and I told him I won't take him treating me without the respect I deserve, as Friends!
Ok, with me so far???????? When this happens, and it's been 2 or 3 other occasions, each time he looses a "Notch" in my Book! See, he will KISS up, get all sweet again, apologize, THEN, before I know it, he's again stying to "snap his fingers" for me to JUMP, and when he pulled this before, I flat-out DIDN'T JUMP and he knows me for this.
2007-01-20 03:50:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't get to finish the question.......... Ok, guys, out there, why do men like this PLAY? it seems like it to me Sam is playing with my mind. After 8 DANG years, I thought we had a real Friendship!
I think, if he was serious about wanting me in his life, as he CLAIMS, he wouldn't treat me BAD the way he has been lately!
I would consider it, and I'd tell my Husband how I feel, BUT, guess what? Sam doesn't want him to know anything!!!!! Well, that tells me he is more interested in himself and NOT me, which is the way I'm seeing this! Anyway, I have doubts about Sam as a Friend now, cuz I won't take being treated that way, ANYMORE-----Friend or no Friend! With Friends like that, WHO the He** needs enemies, RIGHT?
GUYS, what is this one thinking anyway???
IN this 8 years, don't I mean anything to him as a Friend? Friends DO NOT treat Friendds badly!
Thanks for any help with this! Bless you all!
2007-01-20 04:06:10 · update #1
like you name implies julesrules. your friend Melanie
2007-01-20 03:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just a jerk, and you described the typical abusive partner. Abusive first, apology later, over and over again. And believe me, it never get better. If you were his girl he would be beating you (he don't beat you "yet" because he still hopes to get in your pants).
He is unstable so get out of that relationship before he go to the next level: to try to end your marriage by backstabbing and rumors; or he using a gun against you in a depression outbreak once he sees that he'll never get your sex favors.
For less disrespect full things I have ended long time friendships. Do not be afraid to end with some one who treat you as a worthless piece of meat.
He is not your friend, he just "play friend" to get your trust in exchange for SEX (that's a very old dirty trick guys use; ask any one).
About your husband, that's a hard question: You tell him everything, he beat or kill the guy and go to jail; you don't tell, he find out or is told about the weird relationship and he will probably won't believe about you being loyal. The sooner you end with that sicko sex demanding "fake" friend, the better.
2007-01-20 12:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to call off the relationship as a friend or more. He is an abuser and loves playing the part.
You are too good for him.
Good luck
2007-01-20 12:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your delema but I don't see a question. I can tell you that if your married, its flat out an inappropriate relationship. You would not approve of a similar relationship from your husband, would you? If you are NOT intending to have an affair with this dope then why do you even deal with it?
2007-01-20 11:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by papaz71 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
evidently this SAM guy is in love with you and because he can't be with you as a mate, he is frustrated and that is why he is treating you the way he is treating you, you really need to tell him to f uck off and move with you life, don't bring drama to you life if you can avoid it.
2007-01-20 12:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋