I am 13; still a virgin. And I am extremely scared of losing it. VERY. I'm not saying I'm gonna lose it now. I'm just sayin'. Cuz I heard that the proper/most common age that a person loses their virginity at is 15. Is that true?
Is it normal to be scared?
Can you give me any GREAT advice on it?
2007-01-20 03:43:39 · 18 answers · asked by ☆ Sarah ☆ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
And any advice on what I should do when the time DOES come?
2007-01-20 03:55:13 · update #1
oh, yeah 1 more thing:
When you were/ are in school and you liked someone so much,
that you said you'd bang them?
Well, a lot of boys and girls say that in my school. (in my grade: 8th).
I find it halarious. B/c I know that if they were really in that situation they wouldn't do it.
So, is it normal for them to say that?
I've even said it a few times. But, I know that I really wouldn't.
2007-01-20 04:03:38 · update #2
my friend lost her virginity in year 8.
she was the younger gf of my friend.
but thats way too young in my opinion.
Okay, i lost mine at 15..
but i dont think thats the average.
hold on to yours as long as you can, okay lovely?
some advice for when the time comes: take it s it comes.
you know, tampons loosen you up.
so if ever you are planning to have sex, try starting to use tampons.
2007-01-20 13:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lor. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to be scared. It's a precious thing that you should covet until you find a man you truly find worthy of such a once in a life time gift. The physical pain (for me) wasn't hardly anything. I don't know about the age 15 statistic, though it sadly wouldn't suprise me. I fooled around a little at age 16 with my first boyfriend to my eternal regret, but I didn't actually lose my virginity until I was 18.5, just graduated from high school, on birth contol, and I've only done it with my fiance', who at the time I had been with for over 6 months. That I don't regret. We were already discussing getting married then (4 years later, I've got my ring, but still waiting...) My advice is to wait and do it only when you're comfortable and with someone you really care about and love. Try to wait til you're 18 when you're more assured and know what you want. Don't be pressured into it before you're ready (even saying you'll "bang" them, because it will give encouragement when none should be given) and if you think you'll regret it, you most likely will. Good luck and be safe.
2007-01-20 13:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Up an Evolutionary Tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are scared about it then it is obviously not the right time for you to lose it. I think that 15 is a common age (that's how old I was), but it is still really young. If I could have a do over in life I think I would have waited... There is no "proper" age to lose your virginity, you have to wait until it seems like the right thing for you. In any event, you should make sure that you talk about it with the guy and discuss protection so that you don't end up pregnant or with an STD. Keep in mind that once you start having sex it is as though you are having sex with every girl that guy has had sex with and vice versa.
2007-01-20 12:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no "proper" age to lose your virginity. If you are not comfortable with the idea of having sex then don't do it. Never let a boy pressure you into it. It is normal to be apprehensive but when it happens it should be a positive and enjoyable experience. If you don't want to do it don't. Not just the first time but every time you have sex. If a boy tries to put pressure on you to have sex, or do anything, you are not happy and comfortable with him, stop seeing him straight away because he has no respect for you and he's not worth wasting your time on.
When then time is right and you are with the right person it will be the easiest and most natural thing in the world so don't be afraid. That may be when you are 15 it may not be until you are 25 who knows. Everybody is different. But it's you who should decide, nobody else.
2007-01-20 11:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be scared, but as one person said on here it is not until after when they are worried about pregnancy that they really are scared. It is great that you are waiting. It has changed alot. When I was in school it was odd to se a pregnant teenager and most of them were 17. My greatest advice is if you are going to have sex or thinking of it ever, please talk to your mom or someone close that can get you condoms and some form of birth control. So many pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases can be prevented if they were both used more often. Of course the only thing 100 percent preventable is not to have sex. Kudos to anyone who waits, but I will say for some who first lose their virginity there can be regret. Be sure you are ready when you have sex.
2007-01-20 16:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some advice. Do you want a kid at 15? I didn't think so. Do you want a kid at 18? Not bloody likely. Do you want an STD? again, I highly doubt it. I hope you take this to heart. There are too many teens out there that think, "Oh, I can have sex, pregnancy and STDs won't happen to me..."
And then they wonder what happened. Basically it's stupid. So you stay strong and keep it until you feel like you've found the right person to share it with. Not the next guy you 'love' but the man who you want to share your life with. I guarantee that NOONE who waits until marriage to lose their virginity regrets it. NO ONE! I do know TONS of people who regret NOT WAITING.
I'm not asking you to wait until marriage, just at least wait until you are 18. Then you can make a decision about it. I would hate for any of what I said above to apply to you.
2007-01-20 11:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a long time before you have to worry about this, and when it is with the right person and you know all you need to know then it will be nothing to be scared about I promise you.
The age of consent is 16 years old, that means the youngest a person should be having sex is 16 years old and this law is there to protect you not just from paedophiles but the emotional and physical problems sex can cause.
Some people do have sex underage, but a lot of people who claim they are having sex under 16 are lying because they think having sex younger makes them more mature, when it does not at all. A lot of people also think talking about sex or saying they will have sex makes them seem mature or cool, again it doesn't they just think it does because sex is a grown-up thing.
Sex under age is not only illegal but also not very smart because no matter how much you might dislike this when you are in your teens your hormones control you so you cannot always make sensible decisions, and sex underage can be harmful because it increases risks of STD's and cervical cancer.
If a girl is to get pregnant (if foolish enough to be having underage sex, then probably foolish enough not to practice safe sex) it puts her and the unborn child at great risk, not to mention potentially ruining the lives of everyone involved.
When it does come remember that men and women have sex differently, did you know only around 30% of women orgasm from penetrative (penis into vagina) sex alone?
As women and men are made different they enjoy different types of sex, women tend to prefer masturbation, oral sex and touching over just plain penetrative sex, as such foreplay is very important not just to have fun but also because if you are not aroused then it makes penetration difficult even painful.
A lot of people say sex the first time should hurt – this is pure myth – as long as you are ready both emotionally and physically then the only reason for pain would be if the hymen breaks – this is not always painful, if you have a hymen and your hymen breaks the first time you have sex then it is just as likely not to be painful, it can even be pleasurable.
Sex education sucks big time, you need to be able to learn about your body, your partners body and sex before you actually have sex yourself – it's also not just biology you have to learn about but things like what I told you above, learn that safe sex does not just mean using a condom and sex is nothing like what it is on TV – you know, romantic and perfect where the woman screams with pleasure from the slightest touch, it's largely nonsense, it is more likely to be awkward, messy and not very enjoyable until you know what you are doing and can ask for what you want in bed.
Then being young it's a touchy area as to how much information we can give you so I'll stop there and point you in the direction of some good web sites to get you started in learning what you need to know for yourself….
http://www.scarleteen.com
http://www.the-clitoris.com
http://www.myvag.net
http://www.vaginaverite.com
http://www.sexinfo101.com
http://www.infosex.com
http://www.sxetc.org
2007-01-20 14:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kasha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex and you won't lose it. Yes that's true. Most teen girls lose their virginity in the USA by 14 years old. Most don't get scared until after they lost it and think they might be pregnant.
2007-01-20 11:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You loose yours when you are ready. Don't listen to any ! But you should think about getting on the pill. Go to your local planned parenthood. They will not tell your parents. You don't want to become pregnant. Above all protect yourself. Use a condom too to prevent std's.
2007-01-20 12:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
a proper age would be over 18. if your scared dont do it your too young anyway. enjoy being a kid while you can
2007-01-20 13:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋