Marriage is to be a partnership Right? Right. The man said, "when she is not home I am the boss".....so

Question

who around your house is considered the boss? It is mutual?
or is it the Father-Husband or the Mother-Wife?

Do you think the Man should be the head of the house?
If not, Why?

Answer 1

if society refers to the man as the head of the house, than the woman is the neck...and the neck can turn the head any way she wants

Answer 2

The answer depends on the individuals involved.

When I was married to a moron, I had to be the leader. Now that I'm married to a man whos judgement I completely trust, I'm comfortable living as his equal.

Equality is the best approach. Why?

I was raised on a farm with my sister. There were no gender rules. We worked hard. Grew almost everything we ate. Had to help and learn how to fix broken equipment, then turn around and help with the housework.

I can and do change my own oil, spark plugs, filters in my vehicles and can cook like a master chef. I know where the tech manuals are located in the library for my car.
I've worked with cement, fiberglass, glass, stained glass and have worked for many years as a printing press operator.

I have installed drywall, light fixtures, crown molding, chair rail molding, paneling, wallpaper, plaster of Paris, caulk, glue and can drive a nail to China.

I can cook a roast, do the laundry, raise a child, color my hair, pait my nails and tell you what's the latest fashion.

I'm an artist and have won local competitions for abstract art. I've been around animals my entire life, pigs, cows, cats, bats, dogs.

I walk 2 miles a day to work and back even in the snow.

If someone is not treating me as an equal, quite frankly, I'd have to kick their butt to the curb.

That's why it should be equal, because I am as good or better than most.

Answer 3

Every relationship is different. In some the woman rules and in others the husband does. In some they work cooperatively.

In the 18 years we've been together we've worked out a system that works. Neither believes a committee can make important and urgent decisions. So I hold the final responsibility but will always listen and generally defer to my wife's wishes. There have been a few times where I've overruled her but it has been very rare. In general she has absolute authority inside the house about decorating children schools and so on. I have absolute authority for the structure and the yard. We both confer with the other on most things.

Answer 4

A marriage is a 50-50 proposition. Neither is boss. One who thinks is the boss will be looked at as being a person who controls the other. In most cases this leads to a foiled marriage. When something comes up that involves both partners, the two should talk about it and come to an agreement.

Answer 5

Well, I believe marriage is a 50/50 thing. It takes lots of compromise. You have to give and take. 80/20 sometimes. 90/10, 30/70 and so on. It is a partnership. A marriage is only as strong as the two people that make up the marriage.

Men are the head of household. They are the bread winners. Or should be. Women should follow their husbands, and vise versa. If your wife is a good mechanic and you aren't then you should take her advice and vice versa. Sometimes one person is better versed in finances than the other person. So you use each others strong points to be the best that you can be as a couple.

Answer 6

I'm not married, but I can refer to my parents, who have been married for a very long time and whose marriage is still going strong.

I'd say they are relatively equal in their marriage. They make small decisions--inexpensive purchases, for example--independently, but they ALWAYS discuss larger decisions with each other. When I was living there, my mother tended to run the household (minus the cooking and keeping the kids entertained, which were definitely my dad's domain) and formulated most major decisions, but my dad held veto power over everything. Likewise, my mom held veto power over any of my dad's decisions. They never make a decision that they don't BOTH agree on. I think this is a good system and one I would like to replicate in any future marriage of my own.

Answer 7

well, in most cases due to religion and just back in the old days the man is the boss of the household.. because he works the woman takes care of the kids but when both work or its vis versa then the man has allowed it to be either 50/50 or to be spoken for.. so it just depends on the household honestly ... but no matter what the man should always consult the wife before making big decsions.

Answer 8

In my marriage, I decide certain things and my husband decides others. We both agree, for example, if a situation pertains to the computer it's his say. I wouldn't argue with his opinion as he is technically very savvy and I learn a lot from him. When it comes to the pets it's my say as I know more and will decide what's what. Bills - him. Food, household - me. Investing and saving - me. Vacations and recreation - both of us. We respect each other enough to know when the other knows better. If we are unsure, we just talk it over and figure it out together. There is no "boss" in our house. We find that notion antiquated.

Answer 9

It depends on who should be the boss, and boss of what. There are areas where men tend to make better descisions and others where women tend to make better descisions. There are numerous exceptions, too. The bottom line is, there's no need to rub it in that you're the boss and each partner should know their weaknesses and defer to the other, respectfully and without their gender ego making this any more difficult than it already is.

Answer 10

it is simple, the "head" of the house should be the one that can do the best job in the interest of the family/household, some people are just not good at this and whether man or woman should not have the opportunity to do an unjust job

Answer 11

My man is the head of the household...and I like it that way. That doesn't mean he is like a dictator or anything...but he is the man....If he was incapable of running things...I would consider him less than a man. Two people can't drive one car at the same time.