I am a foreigner working in other country. I find a man and we married in a country which both of us is not born at. I do not know if our marriage is legal or not. then he went to work in far country for our future but things change as he was so busy and call me sometimes only when he is free. then there is this guy who propose to me and i just accept as a lover. he is very good in bed than as i called husband. now i am confuse help me how to choose which man i want to stay with...
i do not know how to tell the two men about me as both of them i love but i need to choose and i do not know where to start...
now i am planning to leave alone...
2007-01-20 03:10:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, since you have married, you need to find out if your marriage is legal. If it is, I would go to him, since you are leaving and explore that realtionship. If you find he is the Partner you choose, then problem solved. If he is not then you need to divorce.
Only at the time of your divorce will you consider your Lover as a Partner. You were cheating when you took him instead of your husband. Your husband is entitled to the rights of a husband, one being fidelity, and you should treat him with respect in all interactions.
Let your Lover know that you need to resolve the issues with your Husband. (To divorce or not.) When you know you will be free of prior committments, then you can offer him a relationship.
2007-01-20 04:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first how can you love 2 men at the same time? The person you should be in live with is your husband, isn't that the reason why you 2 got married! Working in another country is no excuse to cheat it is no different if he is in the military serving in the war in Iraq! Drop the lover and stand by your man. Like the old saying "The grass isn't always greener on the other side!" Just think about your actions and do what's right for both men, if you continue this all you will end up doing is taking away their ability to trust another woman! Be honest with yourself!
2007-01-20 03:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by theresa_whitley_28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have put yourself in such a position it is difficult to make yourself comfortable. First of all you broke the trust your husband had posed on you. just you did not have sex you started looking for it. I think that is what happened to you. Well this is merely a lust and you do not love the second man. Think over and let your heart speak. I am not wrong. you still love your husband. Leave this man immediately and explain him that you are married. If you feel home sick go and visit your husband and stay for some time with him.
I still have a feeling that you love your husband. Do not loose him and do not be unfair to him.
2007-01-20 03:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say but that was very wrong, if you really loved the first guy you would'nt have cheated on him, cheating is wrong you should have not got married in such a rush if you both were not stable. you can't hide if forever and once they both find out you might as well sy you've lost them already. It's horrible to find out someone is really not the person you think they are. Just imagine how it would feel if it happened to you.
2007-01-20 03:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Lyn your vocabulary sure took a nose dive from your last wind surfing question! You're just messing with our minds aren't you? Well, O.K. I'll play along. This fabricated girl you dreamed up should file for divorce. Not that her fabricated husband is a bad guy, it seems he is a very responsible fabricated guy. It's just that cheating is involved oops fabricated cheating was involved, so sooner or later a fabricated divorce will be needed. Good Luck hypothetically speaking ;) lol
2007-01-20 03:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cheat the person that he fight for u and work outside of country for u, i never let myself to be a toy for two men, and if your husband far away from u, because of u because of better future for u and him.. i know u need care and understand but u must to tell the truth the second man that u have a husband even in name but u had OK..
2007-01-20 03:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about what you want out of life then you are able to find love and keep love.
You shouldn't start a relationship with another without ending the existing relationship you have.
2007-01-20 03:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't base a relationship on sex, and lust. you promised the man u married to be there, but the minute he left, to work and make money for your future, u had doudts, wanted your gratification now, and didn't want to wait on it. should end one relationship first before finding a new one, cheating hurts, is deceitful, and shows your true character.
2007-01-20 03:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r cheating both of them n urself , ur lover tht ur married b4 n be truth to any one of them n think who can take more care abt u now n in future, may b uno d mentality of them ,n take good decision n think abt ur future .
2007-01-20 03:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by kittu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don´t deserve any of them and I hope you will know what it is like to be cheated on very soon and then to have them both leave you!!!
2007-01-20 03:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋