like i make marry in 2002 i underestimate my spouse and in laws and after marrying i found tottaly change behaviours and i feel change my self i found my self not as an normal person losing weight found no happiness not interest in my work and profession lack of money lack of confidence and also lack of health just due to my past thoose foolish decisions
2007-01-20 02:56:14 · 15 answers · asked by depressd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TIME IS A GREAT HEALER. JUST MOVE ON AND WITH TIME YOU WILL REGAIN YOUR HAPPINESS.
2007-01-20 03:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone to go screw a donkey!
ok forget about everyone else, i know this is easier said than done, but if you kill everyone then although that may make you feel better in the long run it wont cos you'd end up in jail or you'd have to kill yourself too, and then you'd just be stuck with them for eternity.
Just take a time out, even if that means not associating with the situation you are in until you are ready, marriage can be a big thing (i'm not rushing to get married because i dont want the relationship with my partner to change, even though i love him enough to get married, and if i join his family then i'm not going to pretend everything is fine when i really dont like someone and then i'd probably have to kill them all. But i'm in a better mood than usual..)
You come first, it's your life, no one has the right to control you, sure they can tell you what to do, what is or isn't acceptable, and so on, but they are not you, they aren't feeling what you are... and if they cant accept whatever you choose to do then you dont need them... get a dog... a killer dog.. oh wait they get put down.. nm
if it's just about the marriage then talk to your partner, if they dont listen then think how that will be in the future.
Think about what "mistakes" you think you have made, and think how you can avoid making them again, and dont hate yourself if you make tem again.... just take it one step at a time.. like a baby learning to walk.. sometimes we forget that just because we're grown up doesnt mean we know how to do everything right and perfect, oh n we cant always make everyone happy all the time, the least we could do is make ourselves happy...
2007-01-20 11:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by bloodysnowravenkisses84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I'm going to give you advice that is totally opposite than most. Embrace your past! How can we overcome future problems if we try to forget our past failures! Self evaluation is now taboo with allot of psychologists, due to the many "gay" people seeking mental health issues. Not that this is a gay slam!!! It's just what I have read in the psych magazines my wife gets. However, I disagree! P.O.'s my wife that I disagree too! How can you acquire wisdom if you don't learn the lessons form the past? Anyway, DON"T DIVORCE! Realize you just screwed up and now you must intelligently approach the problem. Running away, has never been a good answer. Unless your question is "what do I do about this charging bull"?
2007-01-20 11:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is gone and you cannot change it; but you can change your future. Married the wrong person? That solvable. You got only one life so live it. Learn from mistakes, ask yourself and others how can you avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future. Have a goal and work toward it, step by step. Ask people you admire how they got the thing you want. Do not be ashamed of asking for help; no one got to the top without help.
2007-01-20 11:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are having all of these symptoms of depression is because you're still stuck dwelling on things that are in your past. The best comparison I can offer is if you stepped in a mudhole and got all dirty, but instead of getting out of it and going home to get clean clothes and take a shower, you're staying stuck in the mudhole and trying to still live out your life with people passing by looking at you all dirty.
The best advice I can give (whether this will be easy for you or notor not), is to leave it all in the past and start a new life for yourself. The best way to do this is eliminate the things in your life that remind you of your past. Take a different job, find a different set of friends, disassociate yourself with your past behaviors and routines... you can even move to a different city or a different part of town... all of this, after a couple of months, will help you to let go of the things that are bothering you and bringing you down, and you will soon realize that it is all in the past and doesn't matter anymore.
It may be tough to take these first steps, but you must have courage in order to overcome your obstacles to a happy life.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-20 11:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear sometimes we have to change ourselves first. Your past is your past, It isn't going to change. That part is gone, but you have the power to change your future. You have to first look out for you, cause if you are depressed, you will not be able to do anything for the relationship to make it better, as well nothing for you. I would strive to work on yourself. Respecting yourself and looking for small goals that you can accomplish to give yourself a sence of self-worth. Right now I don't feel as if you are happy with yourself and your going to be extremely hard on yourself and the more you stress the worse things will get in the relationship I your life and deffiently in your health. What makes you happy? What has made you happy in the past? Never look to the past for regrete, but look to it only to make better and wiser decisions in teh future. We all have a past and things we aren't proud of, but let it only be used to help you do better, not to barry yourself in it. I wish you alot of luck and I will be praying for you and your situation.
2007-01-20 11:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never get rid of the past but you have to know the past is past and you have to concentrated in the present and prepared for the future, i also make so many mistakes the i never though i will live this Long to think about them, but life goes on and we do go on with it. don't worry about the past and think how can you make a better future. i have never take anything for depresssion or any other kind of drugs because i think the i can allowed my self to be depres, life is to too good to be sedated all the time.God bless you and good luck
2007-01-20 12:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has been past and already done, there is no use regretting it. The best way now is to deal with problems at hand. Put your current problems in words and what exactly makes you regret your decision or behaviors or situations that trigger your depression and try to deal with them.
2007-01-20 11:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, you know what, I am saying this from my personal experiences that we alone are responsible for the state of affairs in our lives. Or you think others are then, why are you letting them control your life so much. Believe me but there is a strength within us that helps us rise a& face all issues in our lives boldly. Just get in touch with that strenght of yours & see the changes.All the best
2007-01-21 05:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by aditi n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your present. See what flavors your present has got for you.
See its basically just like whatever yesterdays meal was like, to live today I need to concentrate on todays meal. And if it's worse than yesterdays meal, I need to plan out for tomorrows meal. Someday, I'll definitely be able to enjoy a good buffet....
2007-01-20 11:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time will wash off your past. Just focus on what you have now and how you could utilize your strengths
2007-01-20 11:02:37 · answer #11 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋