im 25 years work part time having a 4 year old little boy and a wonderful boyfriend who i have been with since i was 18.
Im having my 2nd planed baby im 12 weeks and scared i wont be able to love my new baby as much as my little boy is this normal???
2007-01-20 02:32:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I accidently got pregenat (whilst on the pill) with my second baby whilst my 1st was only 6 months old!!!!
I was petrified. Then one day, when my baby @ 5 wks my 2nd smiled. that was it. I feel in love.
I couldn't imagine loving another one the same as my 1st, I kept thinking that because I loved my 1st so much thatr I didn't have anymore love to give. I thought I would have to halve my love over the two, but I was wrong. I love them both so much and so intensely, I have doubled the love I feel, if not i am overflowing with love for both of them.
You'll love them both the same amount, but for different reasons. The same reason however is that they are your babies.
2007-01-20 06:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by jamiehattie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally normal. I feel the same way. My little girl is 6 years old and I love her so much. I'm due in 4 weeks with a little boy and I wonder if I will connect as much as I have with my little girl. I've read that once the baby is born, you will connect instantly and the love will grow. I plan to breastfeed which will make the bonding experience even stronger. You may want to consider breastfeeding as well to make the bond with your 2nd child stronger too. Hope this helps.
2007-01-20 11:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is very normal...I'm 37 and didn't have my son till 16 months ago. When I was prego I never felt connected to my baby. I was scared to tell anyone because I thought they would have thought I was crazy. After my baby was born it was sooo strange. I didn't even feel like "somebody's" mother. I loved him but I didn't feel it if you know what I mean. But let me tell you, when he started smiling at me, and showing just a little bit of affection he grabbed my heart. There's no other love like the love I have for my son. Think about it this way. This will be something that you can share with your son. You will love him just as much. That doesn't mean that you wont love your first son anymore. Try to get your son involved in the baby. Even now while your pregnant.
2007-01-20 10:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very lucky to have a boy and a girl and although they are now 22 and 18 years old they are still my baby boy and baby girl just don't let them know that. I did have the same fear but when i saw my baby girl I loved her as only a mother can love their daughter. Don't worry about this too much and enjoy the time you have till the birth and good luck.
2007-01-20 13:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by cheryl l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
32, an 8 year old girl who is my world, and 18 weeks pregnant with second child. Was worried about the same thing, then it dawned on me that no matter what, I carried both in my belly and will love them equally no matter what. When the baby moved for the first time, my heart almost exploded with joy. What makes this one so special? The look on my daughter's face when she feels the baby flutter around and then she will kiss my belly. Your first will always have a special place in your heart, but you will love this one just as fiercely.
Don't worry, just enjoy it. There is no love as big as a mother's love.
2007-01-20 11:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by Out on a limb returns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah! I just had this talk with my husband about that this morning. The way my mother explained it is that the love is different between your first child and then your "baby", but you'll love them the same amount. My mom had two girls and that's how see explained it to me because I was scared about it too. My husband says once our baby is born (also a girl) we'll love her as much. I guess it's true, so many people have two kids and love them both, right? I think it's more the emotions messing with us now. Good Luck though!!
2007-01-20 11:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read your question I thought of my wife as she is in a very similiar situation as she is expecting our 3rd child in 4weeks time and is feeling very scared and anxious and is doubting if she will love this baby just as much as our others but I really think that you have nothing to worry about, am sure that once your baby is born you will feel exactly the same feeling you did when your 1st baby was born. If you have any worreis or concerns contact your midwife or gp and maybe they can help answers any concerns. Try not to get yourself upset am sure it will all turn out fine. good luck
2007-01-20 10:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is normal. I am the mom of 2. My kids are 7 years apart and I was more worried about having time for both of them. I think I have managed.
You will be surprised and how much love you have to give once that second child comes.
Good luck and enjoy them while they are little; they don't stay that way long.
2007-01-20 10:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Wealth of useless information 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first son is 8 and my second son is now 14 months because i waited so long in between i thought the same thing but it's not like that , the feelings you got when you give birth for the first time come flooding back the same, your heart is big enough for the both of them.
2007-01-20 11:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by COWBAG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a normal feeling btu you managed to love your little boy when you already had one love in your life - your boyfriend! Dont forget it takes time to love someone even if it is your child, it took me til my baby was almost 3months old! So dont worry about it, us humans are capable of loving lots of people all at the same time - promise!
Congratulations and Good luck!!!!!!!
2007-01-20 10:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋