I've been living with this freshman, 18 yr old housemate, for two weeks...anyway, the thing is, I'm sitting with my housemate and we're just listening to some rock music when the kid asks me out of the blue "Do you love me?"
I was flabbergasted on the inside but acted like I hadn't heard a thing was glad beyond relief when another housemate popped into my rooom and 'saved me by the bell'. Anyway, what should i tell the kid if he asks that again?
I'm also a guy BTW.
2007-01-20 02:21:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My ultimate advice for you mate is to tell him yes, you DO love him. But only as a friend. Then tell him you respect the fact that he is gay but unfortunately you are not. If you ARE gay, tell him its far too early to ask something like that because ye barely know each other. Try this out and nobody will feel any hurt or embarrasment, i guarntee you that. He will not ask you any more questions like that again. If he does, then just be sensitive to his need for love and maybe introduce him to some guys and girls who are gay. Come on.......we ALL have gay friends!.
My best advice mate. Try it out.
2007-01-20 02:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just confront him, nicely of course. I would think it was hard enough for him to ask,so don't be insensitive about it. Just be honest with him and tell him it made you uncomfortable and explain to him where you stand. You can do this with out making him feel like an idiot. Be sure to ask him if he felt you were sending the wrong signals so you can avoid doing so in the future.
2007-01-20 02:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just simply answer, "No, I don't; even if I were gay I don't know you well enough to love you" or "even if I were gay I don't think you're my type". I wouldn't make a big deal of it, and this should clarify to him that you're not interested in any type of relationship other than housemates or simple friendship. (I'm assuming from the way you worded this that you're not gay.)
2007-01-20 02:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by telaine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt like it is a weird question, tell him. Maybe he's just trying to figure out what your buttons are and how to push them. It sounds like it was your place first, so don't let him bully you in any weird way.
2007-01-20 02:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Elisabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK the fact that you are gay has nothing to do with the situation although i am glad that you are comfortable with your sexuality.Now what you need to do is simply tell him how you feel if you have feeling's for him tell him if you don't tell him.I myself don't think it is a good idea to get sexually involved with someone that you are a roommate with.Good luck to you.
2007-01-20 02:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't wait. Ask him why he asked. Maybe it's more of a "am I a loveable-type person" question. If it's not, you can gently and kindly explain to him that your hetero., no offense intended.
2007-01-20 02:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Scoots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy asks it again, just say, "Ummm..no, I don't LOVE you." If you need to, tell him the question makes you uncomfortable.
2007-01-20 02:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the kid is probably starved for adult in put and he wants to know how you feel about him. i have a feeling that there is not much more to it but he wants to know how comfortable you are with him and if he can confide and soundboard on you . (trust )
2007-01-20 02:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by 02 polaris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them NO.To weird watch yourself
2007-01-20 02:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sh*t what a dilemma...I would tell him straight up that you aren't into that sh*t. Then I'd run to get a new place dude.
2007-01-20 02:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋