last night around 12 my boyfriend called to invite me to go snowboarding with him in the morning. Him and his friends and there girlfriends were all going, so he wanted to know if i could to. I said ya, maybe. And he tells me ok were going at 7, so i'll call u alittle before. Its know 10 and he never called me... I know some of his firends girlfriends couldn't go, but he should have at least called me... right? I'm not positive if hes snowboarding rite now but im pretty sure he is. What makes me annoyed though is that earlier that day i told him, we should definitly go snowboarding somtime soon. He tells me, ya but its really packed at the mountains nereby, and i don't really feel like it. But then when his friends ask him to go to that same, "packed" mountain hes like ya lets go!!! It makes me feel like he would rather be with his friends then me. And we only have the weekends to hang out, so its not like he never gets to chill with them... do u think i should b annoyed?
2007-01-20 02:20:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why dont you talk to him about it before you decide whether to be mad at him. it would be more useful to ask whether or not you should be mad after you have his explanation. maybe it's legit.
2007-01-20 02:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by curious george 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be upset about that, but I wouldn't let it ruin my day. See if you can get together with some of your friends and go....
My husband and I met in high school, he was a senior and I was a junior... He used to do the same thing... When he graduated from high school we went our separate ways because his friends were more important at the time... 5 years later we got together again, 3 years later we were married and have been for the last 4.5 years. I guess the point of the story is that let him do his thing, if you are meant to be together then eventually you will be... Although it's fine to be annoyed it probably wont get you very far.
2007-01-20 10:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless he has been in a bad accident and died, then I would say yeah be mad at him or annoyed. He should have respected you enough to call at 7 and tell you that he changed his mind, he is not going snowboarding {that is the only reason why he hasn't called} if you said ya, you would go or maybe go, then he should have called you. But, don't take my advice, because it usually backfires when I give couple advice.
2007-01-20 10:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by amazon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. How are you around his friends? Some guys feel like they can't really have a good time with the fellas if their girlfriend or wife is around. When a bunch of guys get together they like to talk a lot of trash. I have gotten in trouble on more than one occasion when I took a girlfriend with me somewhere and everyone was having fun, then when we leave she was mad because of something I said. That ruins the good time we just had. Don't be annoyed, just hang out with the girls when he's out with the guys :)
2007-01-20 10:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by eee_aww 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEs big time! If all you have is weekends your whole story just changed the whole outlook. It is kind of unfair when it comes to you. You trying to spend time with him and he is taking up his weekend with his friends. The whole deal with him not calling you back is just weird. Almost feel like they all going to strip club instead of snowboarding. I am sorry guy friends of your boyfriend may be cool but they daymn sure aint cool enough because he is not sleeping with them. Now thats where it looks like might be a slight problem. Like i usually say not here to get voted for best answer or anything and not here to upset you, but rather help and it wont sound good just letting you know. He is losing interest in you. You need to aproach him asap. Talk to him how you feel and ask him straight up questions. Dont ask him anything stupid like are your friends more important then you are? You cant compare these things. Nothing wrong with hanging out with your friends as long as he is showing you a lot of attention too, feel me? So here you need to concentrate mainly on questions on how he feel about you and if this is going anywhere.
You need to remember if you see your relationship not progressing but rather staying in a same spot or downsloping you have to do something about it.
There might be few things you need to be prepared for. Whether he is interested in someone else who visits snowboard area a lot or he is gay or trying to be (because otherwise i dont know whats up with him and his crazy love to hang out with his guy friends and not HIS GIRLFRIEND) or he is just simply losing interest in you as a gf, person or someone who used to fun to hang out with but not anymore.
Yes you should be annoyed and should ask questions. If you are not going to ask questions and demand attention and love, if not going to bring up issues to your boyfriend, how will he know there are any?
2007-01-20 10:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he didn't call you when he said he would and left you just hanging, yes you should be annoyed, that would upset me as well. Have you called him though, perhaps all the plans fell through, which would make me less pissed. The question about him saying no to you and yes to his friends is something you need to ask him about.
2007-01-20 10:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the time to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. It really depends if you should be mad at him. Your right, he shouldnt have done that and if he is a good bf then he will understand your feelings.
2007-01-20 10:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably...but you can not monopolize all of each others time. And if you were only one of two females going he may not feel secure enough about himself and your relationship to trust you. Finally he may not have gone!
2007-01-20 10:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be upset next time tell him no,because of what he pulled last time
2007-01-20 10:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be mad at your boy friend but it's not a good idea.
you should talk to him and tell him what you want and help him to treat with people well.I think this can be a good idea.
2007-01-20 10:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by amirhossein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋